Posted by:
think4u
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Date: May 15, 2011 08:16PM
Dear AngelCowgirl,
I really feel for you. What you describe is very common. My kids were grown when I left the church, but as DH could see my doubts becoming stronger, he did a 180 and became more active and devout and temple going than ever.
It was so strange. Week after week he brought home books from DB, his work is right by there, mostly about JS, I believe to shore up his own shaky testimony, because he knows all that I know, maybe more, and for whatever reasons chooses to believe, most likely because all of our 5 grown TBM kids are temple married, so maybe in support of them?
I don't know for sure, but deep down I do not believe for one minute he is a believer, most especially because of horrible ways he treated me, all throughout our marriage, but mostly the last year, horrific emotional abuse, even tried to steal money in the divorce.
Best of luck to you, but the really bad news is that I live in the morridor and I see NO men following their wives out, usually if they both go, it happens the other way around, as men are too proud to let their wife be seen as the one who found the truth first and then he followed later.
That is what I have heard from other exmo's here in Utah, and it is also what I see. I know several men who have left and their wives have followed them out, but not the other way around. So so sorry for the bad news I bring. Hope you beat the odds, really do. I didn't.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 05/15/2011 08:26PM by think4u.