Posted by:
Pariah
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Date: December 11, 2016 04:59AM
I agree. Be honest, and if the Mormons choose to follow the cult SOP and shun you, there's nothing you can do about it. They are brainwashed. Always remind yourself of the great service you did for your husband and children, by leading them away from the lies and the control. (I believe that the Mormon cult is evil.)
It's not your fault that Mormonism is a hoax, so please don't accept any blame. You have the human right to any religious belief you choose!
I went through the same problems with my family. There isn't just one strategy, but many, depending on the people and the situation.
I don't want to lie to people, because that's a bad example for my children. One of the reasons I left the cult was that I didn't like all the lies. I want to be a person of integrity. My children, as adults, are very honest and sincere--and this has helped them in their careers and marriages and in their relationships with their own children. Nothing is more important than that. Tell the truth! Don't let the Mormons manipulate you or coerce you into lying again and again. This is sick.
I always emphasized what I DID BELIEVE. For example, you probably believe in love, and family, and morality, and all those good traits. I still believe in Christ. You (should) believe in freedom of religion, and that includes the Mormons' right to be in a cult, if they want to.
At reunions and parties, if someone starts asking me questions, I have some phrases that I use:
"This is a party! Let's not talk about religion or politics." Then, you change the subject.
At a Mormon wedding, when asked why I wasn't at the temple ceremony, I simply say, "My recommend expired."
"I'm not an organist anymore."
"I volunteer in the schools, now."
"I don't believe in Mormonism."
Whatever you do, don't get into any debates or arguments with Mormons! Those always end badly. No Mormon is going to understand why you left. Don't try to change anyone's mind.
It is very likely, that no Mormon will ever ask you WHY you left. No one ever asked me. Oh, they TOLD me I was offended, bla-bla, but they never asked, then listened for my answer. They are afraid of the Truth. They don't want you to "shake their testimony."
Relax, and be confident in The Truth. They are the awkward ones, who are in the minority. They are less than 1% of the population, and you represent the other 99%.
BUT--be considerate and low-key. Substitute Coke or Pepsi for tea. They have probably the amount of caffeine you are used to. Chocolate also works. You might gain a few pounds. I used to bring instant coffee and Carnation powdered milk in my suitcase, and mix that up with super-hot water from the bathroom basin faucet. You can brew tea with faucet water or bottled water, if you let it sit long enough. Whenever you go out, you can get decent coffee and tea at most convenience stores. Ordering it at a restaurant with Mormons is less obnoxious than having it in a Mormon's home. My brother took No-Doz pills. My friend takes Excedrin with caffeine, which also cures the headaches her Mormon family gives her!
There's nothing with saying that you don't want to fight about religion, especially in front of the children. Say, "Let's talk about the million things upon which we agree!"
You are still the same person.
It will always creep me out, the way Mormons peer through your clothes, to see what underwear you are wearing. I wear opaque clothing, and flesh-tone underwear, which you absolutely can not see.
Have fun! Don't let the turkeys ruin your Christmas!