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memikeyounot
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Date: June 24, 2016 12:13AM
I have 3 older siblings, 2 brothers and a sister. The oldest is Dick who is 84 this year and then comes Kaye, who is 82. Dan, who was 2 years younger than Kaye, died of cancer the same week as the events of 9/11/2001. I didn't know them well growing up.
Dan had 2 sons, the oldest is Bob who is 53 this year. His brother, Scott, was 51 when he died Monday, of what the doctors said was cardiac arrhythmia, but everyone knows it’s his drug use and alcoholism that killed him. He didn’t show up for work over the weekend and someone finally went to check on him. They found him dead, probably since Friday.
He had so much trouble as a young man, his Dad kicked him out of the house after several rehab attempts. They lived in Sparks, NV and I wasn’t that close to either of the boys, nor to Dan for that matter (there’s a whole story that goes with that, for a different time.)
Dan hadn’t seen him for about 5 years, if you can imagine. So about 1995 or so, my dad, his grandpa of course, who lived in Provo, answered the door one day and here was Scott. Out of money, out of work, pretty much out of life. Dad helped him for a week or so, with food and a room, but then my good sister, who had become truly TBM by then, took him in to her house to live with her to see if he could get on his feet.
Dan told her not to, that it would come to disaster. He got a job in HVAC which he’d had some training and lived with Kaye. I don’t remember what the time frame was, but one night she came home from work, found him passed out on the floor in her front room, smelling of something not beer-related.
She couldn’t get him to wake up but he was breathing. So she just left him there, and when she got up in the morning, he was gone. He’d left a note apologizing to her.
By that time I was divorced and had my own issues, so the next I heard he’d been working in Payson and had found a girlfriend. They got married just about the time I left Utah for Las Vegas, in 1998. I saw him a couple of times and someone told me that he’d been baptized and the went to the temple after a few years.
Scott couldn’t keep sober, and he was abusive to his cute wife and 2 daughters, who are 13 and 16 now. They were divorced a couple of years ago, he was having a tough time and I saw him just once at a family reunion out in Bluffdale. He looked rough and didn’t really want to talk. He brought the girls with him and they are really smart girls.
Anyway, that’s the last I’ve heard of him except that he’s been having trouble. I’m Facebook friends with his wife and even though she was divorced, she kept trying to help him.
Then I got a phone call Monday from my sister-in-law. She and my brother have been friendly with his wife.
I’m not sure why I wrote this except to say that I feel bad for not supporting him, but he didn’t really want any help. We are going to a short memorial service tomorrow in Payson, which will be run by his wife’s Bishop. In a TSCC building, where I haven’t been in almost 18 years. Not sure I can deal with that.