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SusieQ#1
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Date: April 26, 2016 02:34PM
You've been out of the picture long enough for her to find something to replace your absence and give her something that she can rely on in Mormonism. The fact is that she is emotionally attached, bonded to the beliefs and it's social system. You can't fight that. Best to let it alone.
You probably cannot "get her out" as this is her choice, her right to make a choice. She really needed to keep you informed but now there is no going back. She has four years of her life invested now. That is not something that can easily be changed. And it is ONLY.. changed IF and she wants to make a change. You cannot change her. We cannot change another person.
I'm going to suggest you try understanding that she has emotional needs that the LDS Church provides. It gives her purpose and a reason for living. This is not about facts. Never is. It's about faith. That is always more powerful than someone's facts. This is about the power of faith in a supernatural, metaphysical, visionary claim that is the basis of all or most religions. It's very powerful. There is a saying that I like: "you can't reason yourself out of something you didn't reason yourself into." In your case, your love for her and your children will need to be more important than a difference of opinion about religious beliefs.
I'll share one of my posts on the topic of " Staying married to a believing husband" -- I was a convert, left three or so decades later, but kept my marriage and family together -- he passed in 2013, after 50 plus years of marriage.
If you can apply the principles that I share here, you may have a way to save your family. It does require that you respect her RIGHT to her beliefs just as you want yours respected.
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,1796720,1796720#msg-1796720Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 04/26/2016 02:36PM by SusieQ#1.