Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: February 10, 2016 06:24AM
Sorry you are so unhappy, beeblequix.
I've been where you are, sort of. I went to the best psychiatrist (MD who can prescribe medication) in SLC. He is not, nor has he ever been, a Mormon, but he has many Mormon patients. He was careful to not persuade me to leave my religion, but he did understand the abuse I suffered.
I believe that Mormonism kills hope.
I believe that Mormonism is a loveless religion.
I believe that Mormonism can destroy your self-esteem.
Like you, I was the sole support of my children, but I was a woman without a career and, at the time, a proper education. My husband had abandoned me and our children, and I was in a very dark place, thinking we would all end up homeless, poor, and unloved forever. I had and still have IC, which is an incurable, painful disease. I thought I was going to die, but I couldn't die, because of my children. As horrible as my life seemed, all that was temporary, and all of my terrible fears and predictions never happened. Even my health has improved with hospital outpatient treatments, a strict diet, and pain management through yoga breathing, meditation, relaxation techniques and no drugs.
I was anxious as a child, and my mother would always say, "This, too, shall pass. Nighttime was always the worst for me.
I wonder if you have PTSD! Depression does play itself out, eventually, but PTSD can last a lifetime.
You mentioned being molested by someone at church. My older brother abused and tortured me, for my entire childhood. He threatened to molest me, with dirty words and descriptions of sex acts. His beatings stopped when I left home, but his foul language and the groping continued until I was about 40 years old, when I finally broke off all contact with him. My TBM parents didn't believe my stories, or my crying, or that my bruises were from my brother's beatings. They wouldn't admit anything was wrong with my brother, who was also the darling of the ward.
Read about sociopaths. They often get away with their crimes. They always blame everyone else.
Do not blame yourself. Being molested can cause PTSD. So can parental abuse and neglect. So can a mission. So can a cult.
Remember that your predictions of doom in a cardboard box, and all the rest of it, is just your depression talking. It isn't reality. Those things won't really happen.
I went to a psychiatrist because I thought I was depressed. My doctor had tried a few different antidepressants on me, but nothing worked. The psychiatrist diagnosed my problem as PTSD, and that I had to learn to deal with anxiety, not depression at all.
In the meantime, please, do not ingest any caffeine, no matter how sleepy you are in the morning. Caffeine can make you extremely anxious! It causes insomnia. Prozac can cause insomnia and anxiety.
Have you been tested for sleep apnea? You mentioned sleep paralysis. Do you snore? Apnea can make you actually stop breathing, so you wake up in a state of panic, gasping for air! Get a sleep test, or ask your wife if she has noticed anything strange about your sleeping and breathing.
You will get through this! I'm so glad you are getting professional help, and that you have a loving wife at your side, and that your boss is understanding. You DESERVE to be happy!