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I suppose I'm anon for this
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Date: November 29, 2015 01:46PM
He is young still, only 13. But my oldest grandson appears to be gay, at least outwardly, and very superficially at this point. He's a wonderful, brilliant boy, a straight-A student and high achiever. He is kind, honest, and compassionate, and everyone loves him. I don't think that there is reason to worry that he will not be accepted, even by TBM family. But it will be a shocker to some in his family.
His father is a ranking and important priesthood holder, but is also kind, brilliant, honest, and compassionate. I don't fear that his sone will not be loved or will be rejected somehow, especially by DD or by his grandmother. But DD's husband's cousin is one of the married LDS gay men marched out in front of the LDS media and touted by the church as a good example that "same-sex attraction" can be overcome with a good wife and patient family. I just worry that some day, when my grandson does come out, that they will try to squeeze him into this same box.
It's funny that I was just voicing this, my belief that he is gay, to a couple of ex-Mo relatives only a month or so ago, and they said that they had remarked to each other about 6 years ago that my grandson had to be gay. They both work with many gay people, and have very sensitive gay-dars. They claim to always be right, and I think they probably are. But I was very surprised that my DW (the grandmother) recognized and voiced a couple of years ago that my grandson was likely gay, and she also wondered what would become of him when the Great and Revealing day came. She will very likely completely accept him no matter what and however it should go. But she's very TBM and would still be one to believe that his gayness could be overcome by hitching him to a good woman and making him natural father to kids. Why? Because this is what Jeebus tells the "prophet." And if the prophet told us all to stick cobs in our butts, she'd do it because Jeebus must have told him so, and Jeebus has his reasons. So I have reason to worry a bit. (Not about cobs, of course, but... Anyway...)
If my gay-dar is working properly (never sure it is), I would say that DD's FIL is a gay, closeted TBM man. I'm afraid that, if my grandson came out, people might march DD's FIL around as a TBM example, too, pointing out that he, after all, raised a family of four himself, and would expect that dear grandson should do the same.