Posted by:
justarelative
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Date: April 28, 2015 01:13PM
Prior threads can be found from here:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,1567385Dear Team,
From our last episode, I was expecting a phone call from the sister missionaries on Monday but heard nothing. Thought maybe they had decided I was not worth spending time on. Then they called just a few minutes ago and we're set for another meeting on Thursday. Yeah!
I'm more than half way through my BoM reading assignment. Progress is slow as my mind drifts away to something else, ANYTHING else, please, pretty much on every page. But I am seeing where certain commonly used Mormon phrases come from like "endure to the end" for example.
One of the things I asked them last time, but failed to mention here, and it came right at the end as they were already on their bicycles and about to pull away -- I asked them how to look up their blogs because I was eager to find out what they might say about me behind my back. It was mostly a joke. They told me they don't keep a blog.
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Anyway, so as you will recall from last time, I challenged them with the rock-in-a-hat story and they assured me that it was not true. And with a little probing I found out that they were sure of themselves on this because their MP had told them.
Thanks to 'randyj' and others I now have the 1993 Ensign article by Elder Russell M. Nelson, Apostle, where he confirms the rock-in-a-hat story DURING A MISSION PRESIDENT TRAINING! Plus the recently published translation essay and other materials. Thanks again everybody.
AND NOW FOR THE TRULY DELICIOUS PART
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So the next day after our last meeting I went to my trusty look-it-up machine, the one I'm typing on right now, and searched for <name of mission><name of missionary> and after three clicks I was reading the blog of the Jr Mish. Her last entry was a couple months back, so maybe one could rationalize the truthfulness of the statement 'we don't keep a blog.' On the Sr Mish I couldn't find anything.
On sister crier's blog (the name I've given to her because she shed a few tears at our first meeting; the other I call sister dunkemsoon) one of the last entries was an account of meeting Elder Nelson and being chosen as the first missionary in the receiving line to shake his hand. And then in the blog she goes on and on about what a good man and what good feelings to be in his presence etc etc.
So now I'm all set to confront the sisters, but gently as I try very hard to straddle the line between too much so that I scare them off and lose the opportunity to continue meeting with them, and too little so I don't really rattle their world enough to matter.
I plan to ASK them first if they are familiar with the Ensign, and if they know who Nelson is. If they give me any dissembling at all, then I will have to confront sister crier on her blog and her blog entry.
If we get that far I will not be flaming them, but expressing disappointment in them. After all, one of the key reasons for me spending time with Mormons is to prove to myself that they are not all evil liars like prior Mormons I have known. (They have already heard that story in brief.) And now they're doing THIS to me? After I showed them extraordinary candor during our prior visit? Is this the REAL gospel: "Don't Get Caught"?
And then -- again, presuming we get this far -- immediately show gentleness and let them off the hook. Remind them that I am no fool; I already know that they themselves are not to blame for all this misinformation; it's simply what they've been taught; how they've been trained.
And then deliver the punch line: "But is that really the kind of person you want to become?"
This one resonates with me because it was that question that broke my trust in the leaders of the One True Church that I grew up in, and led to my exit soon after. Although, to be fair, there had been lots of other prep work in place in my life, not just this one question.
Waiting eagerly for Thursday. Thanks for listening.
JAR