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nolongersearching27
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Date: March 30, 2015 01:27PM
So this week something unexpected happened..
I have never expected, nor wanted an apology from our TBM family members. However, one family member sent me a text very early in the morning. We live 2 hours a part so I was still asleep and I woke up to it.
It really caught me off guard. I still have the text... but what was said in it made me wonder if this person has frequented this site and I hesitated to post about it.. I don't know why.
Essentially this person apologized for the things he/she said or did during the time my husband, children and I were leaving the church. And this person apologized for making that hard decision even harder on us. And this next part has me very curious.
The family member said that they now know how difficult of a decision it was for us to come to that point (ie, leaving the church). I surprised myself a little when I typed back without thinking that there was no need for an apology and it was water under the bridge. Because I let it go a long time ago knowing that an apology would probably never come and well that was how this person felt and I can't control that so not my problem.
I was curious what brought it about though. And I asked. I got a little bit of a cryptic response. That this person is now living more "unorthodox" in their faith in regards to the church. And I left it with the sentiment that I hoped this new found unorthodoxy isn't effecting this persons marriage in a negative way.
I think we all know how it can be difficult if both spouses aren't on the same page in regards to the church. And I meant it. I hope the best for this persons marriage because this family member is a very close one, even though we have had this difference of opinions regarding the church and a bandaid solution of not talking religion to preserve the relationship.
I'm still kind of wondering about this change for this person, but I know that when we were going through our evolution out of the church it was difficult to talk about. So I didn't push. Just sent along my support and thanks for the apology even though it wasn't really necessary.
**sidenote: This person is not one that apologizes easily. In fact in our entire lives this person has never apologized for a few different things that also put a few rifts in our relationships.. but those are stories for different days!
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 03/30/2015 01:48PM by nolongersearching27.