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Date: March 15, 2015 10:35PM
My friend Meredith saw me using my laptop, so she and Megan grabbed it and put it in the hotel safe. They stole my cell phone on Friday right after I got out of class and we left. I saw that I have a message from judge alex and I can't even respond because I don't have the phone. i'll get it back eventually. I found Uncle Scott's cheap computer that he uses for unimportant stuff that he accidentally left in my car. (Thanks, Scott!) Megan and Meredith are too wasted to notice now. I told them I'm typing a paper. We don't do all that many papers in med school, or at least not in this phase of it, but what do they know? They're just two drunk undergrads.
I understand the importance of avoiding drinking and driving. Our hotel is easy walking distance to the beach even for drunk people, and we've retired to the building for the night.
My parents wondered about our destination. I was born a stone's throw from the Pacific, and when anything major happens, it's like I have to be where I can see the Pacific in order to process things. My parents thought we just should have come home, where the Pacific is also right there, but we needed to get away, or at least I did. I think the other two would have agreed to go wherever I wanted to go.
I'm feeling guilty about taking this so personally because I've had a couple close calls myself but led a relatively tragedy-free life. My mom lost her own mother when she was fifteen, then lost twins that were too premature to survive (one for just a few minutes and the other for just two days) when she was 25. Judge Alex's mother lost a son to [I think] lymphoma of some sort when he was something like 18 and another to Type I diabetes when he was something like 29. That's more than one mother (or father) should have to bear. This was Claire's parents' second child lost as well. They lost a four-month old who was two years younger than Claire to meningitis. It doesn't seem fair. They're good people.
I was a bit ugly before the funeral. My mom was supposed to sing "Pie Jesu" from Andrew Lloyd Webber's Requiem, but she realized she wasn't up to it. The lead really needs to be sung by a soprano, so my dad or uncle couldn't fill in. I certainly couldn't. I was doing well to handle the violin part. Scott's sister, who was a voice major, volunteered to sing it, but someone needed to sing the "boy soprano" part that's usually just done by another soprano. Scott's sister's mother-in-law wanted to sing the part. I knew Claire never liked her and wouldn't want her singing at the funeral, so I went from one relative to another until I found one who would agree to sing the lower part. Finally Jared's [my on-again/off-again boyfriend) mother said she would do it. She has a beautiful and classically trained voice but just doesn't sing in public all that much anymore. Even though I was being a bit bitchy, Claire's mother thanked me afterward and agreed that Claire would not have wanted the other lady singing at her funeral.
I feel really guilty that I'm making this seem like it's about me when it really isn't. It's about a girl who left the world probably before the prime of her life and about her parents who have suffered more than their share already. Thank God they had four kids, and I really hope nothing happens to either of the remaining two until long after their parents are gone.
That WAS the Green Day song. Claire loved it and had it on her ringtone for any of her close friends who called. My Dad did it well. He worked his way through med school as a touring and recording lead guitarist during breaks and he has a decent voice. I did the violin parts because they were easy.
When I get back to the real world on Tuesday, I'll give it a bit of time, then evaluate to see if grief counseling is something that I should try. I'm still a bit afraid of the anatomy lab but I know I can't avoid it much longer.
We have a brief break between quarters in about two weeks. If I can just keep my head above water enough to avoid screwing up final exams for the quarter, I'll probably be OK.