think ten times before marrying a person from a hardcore LDS family.

Even if eventually you convince her that it's historical claims are false, she won't care deep down, she will always be drawn to her family and the Church.

Thus, the odds are that you will be second in importance to her (third if you have children) for the rest of your life.

I'm so sorry ...

;o)

So sorry, suffering,

Actually, in my opinion, LDS husbands rank about 10th.

1. Children
2. Family of origin (parents)
3. Church ladies/extended family
4. School or college friends
5. Bishop
6. Joseph Smith
7. Jesus
8. Heavenly Father
9. The Spirit/Ghost with the most
10. Eternal place holder, I mean, husband

There could be some rearranging of the order... Does anyone agree with this perspective?

I see LDS husbands completely left in the dust. Many should have an ATM tattoo and if the money runs out, he must be viewing porn or not reading enough scriptures... It's a travesty.

Suffering, I hope you find solace somehow. The only church organizations I know of that aren't hyper judgemental are Unitarian churches. (As reported to me by some casual attendees in Mission Viejo area. They had visiting lectures from intellectuals/authors...)

If you're divorced, there are divorced dad/kid groups some people like. Best wishes to you.

Good advice. It's tough to be the marginalized, unbelieving spouse. On the other hand, it is devastating for the tbm spouse to believe that their eternal family isn't going to happen. Just a lot of grief all around when one member of a marriage realizes the church is a fraud and isn't willing to live a lie.

Mormon bishops often advise mormon women to divorce a non-TBM who is unable to take them to the celestial kingdom and marry someone more committed to Mormonism.

In other words, they are told to put the CULT ahead of their marriage!