Reminds me of quite a few families who fit that description from the ward/s.
My sister-in-law's sister had a nervous meltdown when her priesthood holding husband pulled that on her. They had something like 5-8 kids (including two sets of twins.) He'd work all day, come home expecting dinner to be waiting and the housework caught up, and children well behaved.
She had to be hospitalized and threatened him with divorce. He finally got the message being a husband/father was more than bringing home a paycheck.
And I only had twins. I about lost my mind. My ex used to tell me he had made all my dreams come true. I realized I had been dreaming the wrong dreams.