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Date: February 19, 2017 04:45PM
I don't often post a new thread here, but I just responded to Windy ways post and it put me in a really sad place. I have not allowed these thoughts or feelings to creep up in me for a solid decade, but here they are and I guess I am still very hear sick over this.
I mentioned the death of my step brother that crashed my shelf:
It is hard to explain sometimes, what shakes us out of our mormon comas. For me, it was when my step brother died. Bless his heart. He had special needs and could not take care of himself. When he was in his 20's his mom and her asshole husband left him alone and moved to Okinawa. He regularly had massive seizures, a few months into him living alone, his sister's husband found him dead in the bathroom. He had been there for 3 days. He had a seizure and had fallen down, smashing his head on the toilet. He died alone and laid there for 3 days. I went to his funeral in Pennsylvania and it crashed my shelf of mormonsism. Everything was "he is in a better place", "thank goodness he went through the temple a few months ago"- then hearing the bishop and stake president drone on about the plan of salvation making it all ok. I kept thinking it was all so disgusting but I couldn't put it into real words or thoughts- I just knew something was wrong.
In the airport on the way home, I picked up Krakauer's amazing "Under the Banner of Heaven". It explained the void I was suddenly experiencing. As you learn about the real history of the mormon church, I believe you will have clarity as to what you are experiencing. It is all wrong. All of it is wrong.
To explain a little further.
When I was a missionary, my mom married my step dad. Thanks for waiting for me to come home mom... I would have loved to have been there... but anyway-
I now had an adult step brother and sister around my age, and their younger brother who was mentally challenged and regularly suffered from seizures, often massive.
He was living with my mom and her new husband (my step dad, his dad) so when I came home, we were suddenly living under the same roof.
He had suffered brain damage when he was born, so he did not have the capability to make rational decisions. He would constantly steal things from stores, try to take over the bus driving duties from the bus driver WHILE HE WAS DRIVING DOWN STATE STREET IN OREM (not a cool thing 2 weeks after 9-11 happened)and he would sometimes run away which scared the shit out of all of us.
It was a lot for my mom to handle, so I had him move in with me and my buddy in a little rental house in Orem. We had fun with him, we loved him, he was our little brother. I never left him for a night by himself because it was so obvious that was dangerous for him. He loved Michael Jackson and his singles ward and regularly had all the weird local young adult mormons over to our place. He thought it was so cool to be living with roomates :).
This is the part I wish I could take back. This hurts. My roomate and I decided to move to Arizona, which left him to move back in with his dad and my mom. He was mad about it and acted out constantly until they decided he had to move to Pennsylvania to be with his mom.
She, the temple recommend holding bitch that she is, decided to move to Okinawa with her husband. He was dead within a few months.
I feel so much guilt over this. We all let him down.
It was the mormon funeral that did it for me. The hypocrisy oozed from the pulpit. All the talk about God's plan etc made me ill. He was dead because he had been severely neglected. By his mother. He was not in a better place, we left him in the ground. I mentioned in the previous post I picked up a copy of Under the Banner of Heaven by John Krakauer on the way home. By the time I landed in Phoenix Mormonism was over for me. Thank god my wife followed suit a few months later.