Last thursday I was finally able to talk to my parents about the cutting and my other issues that are more pressing than porn and atheism. We talked for a while and they decided to take a step back on the mormon issues and i've decided to stop with the porn because of the circumstances. They've even decided to let me drop out of seminary as long as I can find another before school activity. We're finally getting on the right page now and my life at home is getting easier.
On an unrelated note I found out today that my first girlfriend who I felt like I could tell anything is dating another guy after breaking up with me a few days ago and lying about the reasons, which sucks.
just wanted to update since I was a mess last time I posted

Glad things are starting to work out for you.

But you have to find another before school activity? So they still want you up at 5:30am (or when ever you get up for that) and find something to do? That just seems crazy. I could understand if it was an after school activity. Good luck!

I hope things continue to get better for you

>> We're finally getting on the right page now and my life at home is getting easier. <<

This is such good news. I am glad your folks have backed off the mo'ism issues and are focusing on the things that are a little more important ...like you. That should take some of the pressure off.

Regarding your girlfriend, I am sorry to hear that she pulled that on you, I know it isn't very fun to have that happen. But, to keep it in perspective, I recall you are 15, and that sort of thing happens to nearly everyone at your age. It's just seems to go along with the territory when people start dating. I know it still feels crappy, but try not to let it get to you, it's not a reflection on you. Maybe play the field for awhile ...there is no rush. There are lot's of fish in the sea, and lot's of sea you haven't seen.

Glad you are feeling a little better about the family thing, though. Keep sharing with us.

thanks, just have to get a class because my brother is also in seminary and my parents can't take two trips to the other side of town for school. and i just guess that i'm pissed about the girlfriend thing because she seemed to sincerely care about me and its hard to think she was just being manipulative



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Sorry about the girlfriend. :(

Wonder if you could go into to school library or cafeteria for breakfast? My son switched to ROTC in highschool, seems like they had an early class.

Thinking of you

Ask your school counselor for other before-school options. I love the idea of junior ROTC. It opens doors even if you decide that the military is not for you.

Dude, I'll let you in on a well known secret. All women are crazy. It is just the way it is. The trick is to find one that is not as crazy as the rest. It takes a while and is often a hard road, but is worth it in the end.

Or find one who's crazy the way you like 'em and she's crazy for you. It will happen! It may take a few heartbreaks and/or stretches of loneliness, but the right crazy girl is out for you somewhere.

I am so glad to hear that you took the step to talk to your parents about the cutting. It sounds like you were able to have a real conversation with them. That is a great first step.

Build on the progress you've made with your parents and take the next step. You still need therapy. You are only human. You were cutting. It worked for you. When crap happens and you feel overwhelmed you may do it again on impulse alone before you realize what you are doing.

Bring this up with your parents. Honestly, they are in shock, scared, and trying to figure out how to help you. You really need to see a psychiatrist or psychologist to get this worked out and behind you. Again, you are only human.

It sounds like your parents are listening to you and taking you serious. That's a very good thing. My parents have never done that, and i'm in my 60's.

I hope things continue to get better for you. I hope they get you into some therapy. I think it would be very good for them to also go into therapy with you. It sounds like there's some hope for your situation.