Posted by:
imaworkinonit
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Date: December 20, 2014 03:18PM
How we respond to the question would probably vary from day to day.
I do think that the church--and maybe the positive psychology culture--has created unrealistic expectations that we SHOULD be happy all of the time, if we are doing everything 'right'. I think the desire to be happy, or act happy all of the time (in the church) created a surreal "Stepford wife" culture, which may have LOOKED happy but where true emotions were suppressed. It's particularly painful for a person to be depressed in Mormon circles (and some of us are still in Mormon circles). The depressed person tends to be blamed by others and by themselves.
In normal life, there are ups and downs, regardless of how good of a person you are. My personal sense of well being varies with stress, problems, moments of contentment, social connection, or engagement in an activity I love.
We can manipulate our lives in positive ways to create more positive emotions: exercise, getting enough sleep, reducing stress, making time for people and activities we enjoy, etc. And if you feel unhappy a lot of the time, then certainly it would be good to try to make some changes. But realizing that we aren't going to be happy all of the time makes it easier, I think.
I found an interesting link on researchers trying to evaluate happiness:
http://www.centreforconfidence.co.uk/pp/overview.php?p=c2lkPTImdGlkPTAmaWQ9NDE=And maybe this is just a little warped, but I really enjoyed reading this book. I've read a LOT of positive psychology, and sometimes it gets a little old and this was refreshingly different:
http://www.amazon.com/Bright-Sided-Positive-Thinking-Undermining-America/dp/0312658850/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1419106392&sr=8-1&keywords=ehrenreich+bright-sided