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Book of Mordor
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Date: February 16, 2016 01:16AM
I was in a similar situation. This was a long time ago, back when telephones had dials and blacks didn't have the priesthood, but some things never change.
There were maybe 3-4 Mormons in my suburban Los Angeles high school. And since the others were in different grades or different classes, I didn't hang out with any of them. As far as I was concerned, then, I might as well have been the only one.
All my friends knew I was LDS, and for the most part they didn't give me grief for it. But once in a while, they'd fire off a polygamy joke or comment at me. I'd simply laugh with them to show them that I understood. What was I going to do, start defending polygamy? Not very likely, especially since I agreed with them.
Dave doesn't get to sit with you any longer. Do what you can to cut him off. You can say, without lying, that it's not because he's Mormon, it's because he can't keep his fat mouth shut and you can't trust him.
The word may already be out, though, and in that case you'll simply have to deal with it. So here's how I would do it.
First, never defend the church's positions. If people at school start attacking you for something stupid the church or some Mormon did or said, *do not* get all defensive. Instead, you can respond with something like, "Look, guys, I understand where you're coming from. I get it, I really do. I'm not going to defend [dumb church thing]." Or, "You know, I'm really not thinking about [dumb church thing]. Right now I'm just trying to [get good grades, ace the next exam, etc]." Nod your head in sympathy with them, or shake your head in exasperation with the dumb church. Laugh with them at how silly the church is, while actually saying as little as you can.
Second, downplay your church membership. It's not a good policy to lie, but minimize it as best you can. It's just a tiny part of who you are, and not by any means your best part. It sounds like you already have a good core of friends who'll support you.
Third, continue to be the good, caring, tolerant person you are. Even if others find out that you're LDS, you can be "the cool Mormon," not at all like those other Mormon clowns and nitwits at your school.
Congratulations on figuring it out so early. Do your best to avoid a mission and going to BYU.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 02/16/2016 01:50AM by Book of Mordor.