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Date: November 27, 2015 01:34PM
My son quit attending the LDS church while still in junior high but managed to stay friends with all his Mormons. Now that they have all graduated last spring and are going about their Mormon lives, it seems that he is the one they feel comfortable griping about the stupidities of Mormonism to. They never tried hard to reactivate him (other than a few passing comments) and now that they are on missions or at BYU or BYU-I DO (what they call BYU Idaho), when something bugs them about Mormonism, my son is who they call or e-mail to complain - because he will understand and not judge and they can keep up their image around other Mormons. Just this week:
His very TBM friend on a mission in Japan e-mailed to complain that since their MP won't let them drink green tea, they aren't having much success meeting new people to teach. People seem to take offense at their offering of a drink being refused.
His friend who is going to BYU-IDO called crying about the pressure to marry when all she wants to do right now (she's barely 18) is to get an education and how one particular RM is really trying to pressure her into getting serious - it's her first semester there.
Another friend on a foreign mission actually thanked him for being "the one person who he can be honest with" about what the mission is like. He also told a story about an investigator offering to turn on the TV so the missionaries could watch the news reports about the situation in Paris. When my son's friend explained that they weren't allowed to watch TV, this investigator, who already knew about the WoW, asked them to leave because "your religion is too weird."
But it is very true that the Mormon kids are afraid to voice their real concerns to other Mormons, their parents etc. And that they are noticing things about the church to complain about. My exmo daughter, who is still in high school, tells me all kinds of stories about her Mormon friends, who is lying to their parents, who is sneaking out at night to meet guys, who is probably going to get pregnant despite showing up all virtuous looking on Sunday etc...I know teenagers don't always confide in their parents but it seems like I know more about what these teens really think and get up to, via my kids, than their own families. And I'm the heathen. Go figure.