Posted by:
twojedis
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Date: November 20, 2014 10:04PM
It's been nearly 2 1/2 years since sithlord told me that he didn't believe in the church. In that time, we have experienced a lot of highs and lows. Last week, we got some of the best news ever!
We have five sons. The oldest had been home from his mission for a few months when sithlord defected from the church. He got married 10 days later. We were estranged from him for over a year, even missing out on the birth of our first granddaughter. Things have been great with them, and though our son is still TBM, his wife is not. She's basically done with the church, but she has that tricky task of navigating a mixed faith marriage. Still, things are good between us all, and we see our granddaughter a lot. I have a great relationship with my DIL, and for that I'm grateful.
Our second, fourth, and fifth sons left the church when we did. Our third son, however, who was 16 at the time we left the church, has been faithfully attending church until recent months. He also had a long time girl he had been interested in for a couple of years. He had been planning on serving a mission, getting all of the necessary medical and dental work done, and working on his paperwork. Of course the ward was tripping all over themselves to pay for his mission, since he has such horrible parents. (sarcasm) He would often get people approaching him at church with concerned looks in their eyes, asking if he was OK. It's good they were checking on him since sithlord and I began snacking on kittens and beating him regularly.
He and his girlfriend broke up, and he slowly stopped going to church every week. He didn't attend General Conference this past October, nor had he been to church for a month or so leading up to GC. He has a medical condition, which is not serious, but requires close follow-up, so his doctor was requiring him to stay stateside for his mission. He recently asked to upgrade his cellphone to a smartphone, but we were reluctant since we'd be stuck in a contract with him leaving on his mission. So, he dropped the awesome news on us that he's not going on a mission!! Wooo!!
Now we just need to have a conversation about the church, and gently ask whether he's been wondering if it's not really true. I couldn't be more thrilled, even if he decides to stay Mormon, that he won't be subjected to a two year, boring, unpaid sales job.