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Date: November 04, 2011 01:21PM
That's exactly what I would expect a dog to say. Go bite 'im inna leg! However, most of the posters here are human beings.
It's true that a lot of people who are abused do not become abusers, but it's also true the majority of abusers were abused themselves. Physical, emotional, sexual abuse -- people generally learn these behaviors from their own horrible experiences. It's not unreasonable to speculate that Kennard may have been abused himself.
A lot of people here struggle or have struggled with obsessive, compulsive, or addictive behaviors. We smoke, drink, eat too much, take drugs, can't tear ourselves away from porn/the internet/computer games/whatever, when we know that the activity is bad for us physically or emotionally, that it's sabotaging our relationships, that it's interfering with other important activities, that we're avoiding dealing with our issues in a constructive manner. We know the negative consequences, but we still give in to our temptations. We don't seem to be able to help ourselves. Sort of like when you get a sore paw and just can't stop licking or chewing at it. If you've never had to wear the "cone of shame," you're a lucky pooch, and it's no wonder you can't empathize with Kennard. But those of us who have been trapped in our own behavioral ruts have a glimmer of what he felt like. I'm grateful that my issues are minor compared to his.
When Kennard says he struggled with his behavior and felt terrible about it, I believe him and feel sorry for him. That doesn't mean I condone his behavior or think he shouldn't be punished. Like most other humans engaged in destructive behaviors, he knew he had a problem. He didn't deal with it, and now he has to bear the consequences. I'm glad he's been caught and stopped. My heart goes out to his victims, and I hope they heal. And I hope Kennard will eventually find some peace, too.