Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: January 16, 2015 02:00PM
Newborn babies, BIC, are the Mormon cult's #1 source of new members! Remember this! Nothing you do, IMO, can be too rude or too harsh.
Anon4thisone and Notmonotlogged in Mormons, even family members, going behind the parents' back is unacceptable. This is a boundary that Mormons must not cross! It is up to the parents to protect their children from cults and other scams.
I think the only way to "undo" a blessing or baptism, is to have the child baptized into another church that does this. I had my children baptized Lutheran.
Mormons are huge liars, so why can't we lie to them, to protect ourselves? Giving birth is a huge trauma (though a good trauma) on a mother, and Mormons give no respect to women. ("Heck, my great grandma had 9 children, and birthed another crossing the plains.")
1. We are in the middle of a flu epidemic! No one should be allowed to visit the baby unless they have had a flu shot--Wait--I take that back. Flu shots aren't working with this type of flu, and it kills babies. Do you need any other reason?
2. Tell the folks you had a "difficult birth". Really, is there such a thing as an "easy birth"? and the doctor says you need more time to recover. Tell them that your child needs to recover (It's rough on the baby, too.)
3. This is a time for bonding with your husband and other children, if you have others. You need to RELAX and be left in peace, to get the baby to eat properly.
4. MadAlice's idea is perfect--except, as she said, Mormons don't follow any rules! You could mail a formal announcement with a photo of the baby, the name, etc, and say, "The baby is fine, but we had decided it is best to not have any visitors for the baby's first few weeks. On May 3, we are having an open house from 2:00 -4:00 PM. at our mother's house. (Mother can kick people out when the party is over.) Please bring a casserole, a salad, and a dessert. (having to bring food deters a lot of people.)
5. Tell your doctor that you have post-partum depression, and have him write a note to show all your relatives, that you need to stabilize, before you can have visitors.
My therapist says that people who do this to you are making you their "victim." Think about it. You need to be able to be yourself, not be intimidated, not be judged, to be liked and loved unconditionally.
Sometimes I feel that Mormons think babies are just a number--another new member. At the ward Christmas party, they asked my TBM/Atheist daughter and four other TBM mothers to parade their newborn babies across the stage. My daughter refused to do it, and she didn't go to the party. She and her TBM husband haven't had their baby blessed yet....hoping they'll leave....