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SusieQ#1
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Date: October 12, 2014 08:32PM
What I did was to change my thinking, shut off the negativity completely especially of the past, and live in the present focusing on what kind of World View I wanted for myself. I did that by focusing on gratitude for everything in my life.
I also changed myself talk to positive and supportive. I was fine. I would use my self confidence, and self respect while taking my power back and owning it. I refused to give anyone the power to negatively impact my thinking or my life. That eliminated any self-sabotage and needless suffering.
I applied a few principles also that are very powerful.
I like this one: The Second Agreement from The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz
Don’t take anything personally.
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/06/06/the-second-agreement-dont-take-anything-personally/That’s the second agreement of Don Miguel Ruiz’s classic, “The Four Agreements.”
I need a reminder today. So I open his book to that chapter and read:
Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.
Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds…Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up….
I gave myself time to revamp my life. I got involved in other activities to fill the time I had spent in the LDS Church. Some of that was taking classes. Meeting new people.
I'm a strong advocate of our personal power especially in directing the course of our daily life.
You'll get there. You find the tools that work for you.
I shared a few of mine.