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NeverMo in CA
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Date: September 28, 2014 11:20PM
For those who are interested, I posted yesterday that I'd been invited by my nice TBM neighbor to her son's baby blessing today, and I was asking here for advice as to whether I should bring a gift and what would be appropriate, etc.
My impressions, for what they're worth:
My daughter and I arrived just after 9:00 am, but fortunately the 9:00 service hadn't started yet. We were greeted warmly by my neighbor's sister-in-law whom I have met before at a few neighborhood events, and with whom I've always gotten along well. (She has a pretty wild sense of humor for a TBM, at least compared with my neighbor.) She told us just to sit anywhere. It was pretty crowded, so we sat at the back.
The parking lot was nearly full, and the pews were probably 85% filled when we arrived. Only one or two people came in later on. I'd estimate there were about 125-150 people in attendance.
It was a very white (non-Latino white) crowd, even though the area we live in is majority Asian nowadays. Not like I would expect that many Asians at an LDS service, but I was surprised I didn't see Pacific Islanders. There was one family that appeared to be of Chinese descent. Then again, since we were toward the back we obviously couldn't see everyone. There was a multitude of little kids and babies.
Having young kids myself, I feel like a bit of a jerk admitting this, but I did find the kid noise slightly annoying. I was raised Catholic, and although obviously Catholic churches have plenty of kids in attendance too, a lot of families will take their kids to a "crying room" to listen to and watch the service. However, it could just be that the church I grew up attending was much larger inside than this place is, so noises didn't matter so much.
The blessing was at the beginning of the service. A man who appeared to be in his early 60s (the stake president?) stood up and said something like, "So, I think we have a baby to bless today--is that right? What family is that? Oh, yes, the 'Smiths'." I was a little surprised; it didn't seem like he was announcing anything particularly special or sacred.
I did find the blessing moving, however, because my neighbor's husband was clearly emotional while giving it. His voice shook a bit. It seemed to me that he spoke extemporaneously.
The main things that stood out for me were when he prayed that the Heavenly Father would one day give the baby--or his family-- his own planet, and I apologize that I do not recall exactly how he worded this, but "planet" was part of it. I believe he said "the planet that you have set aside for us." I was surprised, because I thought I'd read on RfM more than a few times that Mormons recently have been in denial about that teaching or even unaware of it if they are younger.
He also prayed that when his son "takes a worthy young lady to the temple to be sealed one day" that they will be blessed by being sealed "unto the generations to come." Again, I may not have that verbatim, but it was close to that.
The other parts of the blessing were prayers for the baby to grow up to have a good education, a good heart, to learn the gospel and share it with others, etc.
Afterwards, the same man who'd spoken at the start announced that they had "some ward business" to discuss briefly, which was something I couldn't follow about someone being released from a calling. He asked for a show of hands to indicate if people agreed.
Then a hymn was sung (not bad--at least most people were in tune), during which some men and boys at the front appeared to be preparing the sacrament. I probably should have ducked out politely at that point with my daughter, but I was interested to see what they were doing. Suddenly, though, a boy of about 12 appeared at our pew, and since my daughter and I were at the end, he started to hand me a tray with bread on it. I didn't know if it would be appropriate to pass it on without taking some bread, so I said to him, "Oh, excuse me, but we're not LDS." He looked quite startled and then handed it to the elderly lady next to me.
This will sound odd, but my one truly negative impression of the experience was the strong smell of Wonder Bread when the sacrament was passed to me. Is it in fact Wonder Bread that is used? I hadn't smelled that since I was a kid, and it just seemed incongruous with something that is supposed to be sacred.
At that point, my daughter and I left. I would have been interested to hang around at least a little longer to see more of the service, but we had errands to run and then a birthday party to go to. As we are leaving, I went up to a woman in the lobby holding a toddler and asked if she knew my neighbor's family. She said she did, so I asked if she would mind giving them the small gift I'd brought for the baby. (I'd decided in the end to buy some sleepers, since I was going to get the baby a gift anyway, regardless of whether I'd attended the blessing. My daughter also made a card for his parents.) I thanked her, and that was it.
When we got in the car, my daughter (who is 7) said to me, "That church was boring looking, Mommy. They don't have any stained glass windows!" True...there was nothing inside, apart from the pews, to indicate it was a church or place of worship, at least to a never-Mo like me. The lone decoration was a large vase of flowers against a side wall. The space was wood paneled like a particularly uninteresting Rotary club meeting room.
I'm glad we attended. I was touched to be invited to the blessing or baptism of a child of any faith. Also, if I ever start going to church regularly again, I will have a renewed appreciation for Catholic decor. :-)