Posted by:
exldsdudeinslc
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Date: September 28, 2014 09:33PM
I had a moment tonight. I had plans to play tennis tonight with someone I met this year. It's important to note he instigated.
About a half hour before we were supposed to meet up he texts me and says sorry change of plans he has to help his dad move some stuff.
In my TBM days I would've said "OK" and left it at that, a little peeved but justifying his actions by "family first" and all that. But this time I was (justifiably) peeved and let him know. I asked him if he told his dad he already had plans. He said his brother was only available to help tonight so he had to too. I said "but wait you weren't available...I don't get it" and told him luckily I hadn't shoved off any other plans for this.
It felt good to a) feel a sense of my own worth I'm not sure I've felt before, and b) stand up for myself in a respectable and justifiable manner.
I think I've always been afraid of offending (as most TBMs do) but now I realize it's not a matter of offense, it's a matter of maintaining my own personal worth and integrity, which I have a right to.
Maybe I'm making some progress after all.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 09/28/2014 09:33PM by exldsdudeinslc.