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Cupcake Baby
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Date: September 28, 2014 10:50PM
I wasn't sure if I was going to come back to this post, partly because my dad tracks my Internet activity and I was worried he might figure out that this is me (now, honestly, I don't fucking care if he figures it out) but also because I was afraid that I would come back to this, reread my post, and want to bash my head into the keyboard for being so dramatic. But I am so, SO glad I read your guys' responses. It's so refreshing and strange and amazing to hear people saying kind things about me—especially the compliments toward my intelligence and my writing. I often feel like an idiot and a shitty writer, so you guys have no idea how much that means to me. And it really just feels wonderful to have my feelings and thoughts validated and accepted for once. I don't think I've ever felt that before.
To answer some of your questions, no, I am not in school, as my parents homeschooled me for my entire life—which is why my social skills are so pathetically laughable, and why I literally had one friend last year, whom I only knew on the Internet and now don't have any way of contacting. I don't have any friends in real life, nor have I ever, because I never get to leave my house (seriously, never. Bi-weekly trips to the grocery store and the occasional adventure out to the library. That's all I get.) And while I do have plenty of siblings, I can't talk to any of them about this because they don't understand it, and they get very uncomfortable when I bring up my opinions on anything, *especially* the church. Also, brefots, yes they did teach me that it was wrong to feel anger. They always told me as I was growing up to push away those feelings and let them go, as it would only hurt me in the long run to feel those things. Now I see how fucking backwards that was, because clearly it has done me a whole lot more damage to suppress and downplay all of my anger rather than dealing with it. I know it wasn't what they meant to do, but they only wound up teaching me that feeling emotion of any kind was not okay, nor was thinking/talking about yourself, which is why I always get so nervous before posting messages on these boards.
Anyway, I feel like my hands are honestly tied here, *but* I think the fabric is loosening. I'll be 18 next year, so I can officially move out then... with money that I don't have and have pretty much no way of obtaining. I've been thinking of getting a job, but I'm terrified to, because five hours (how long are part-time shifts anyway? I don't even know, I'm just guessing) is a *long time* to be around so many people. My social anxiety is bad enough when I'm around people I do know, but ten minutes with strangers and I'm ready to run home crying. I don't know how I'm going to work a part-time job if I can't handle stepping foot outside of my house without panicking. (I often feel like Boo Radley would be the one person in the world who could understand me entirely. Perhaps that will be my screen name if I ever make an actual account here.)
I have so many dreams floating around in my head, but I have no idea where to start with them... Well, I kind of do: first thing I have to do is get a therapist to teach me how to stand on my own feet. Kind of hard to do that when you're only seventeen and living at home with parents who can't be bothered to get you one. But if I ever do manage to get one, I then need to get a job... the problems with that are mentioned above. Then I need to save that money from the aforementioned job so I can move out and go to college somewhere, but I seldom if ever did my homework as a kid and I don't think I'd ever get in anywhere. (The best I am at math is 2+2. Then I'm out. And don't even think about asking me anything about American history or physics.) But after I move out, if I ever make it over *that* hurdle, I don't know what the hell I'll do with myself. How do you pay bills? How do you speak to people without crying? How do you listen to your pestering alarm in the mornings instead of throwing it out the window? And lastly, how the *hell* do taxes and car payments work?
Oh god, I don't know. I don't know what to do. I feel like I know exactly where I want to go, but I haven't the slightest fucking inkling how to get there. I need a map, but to get a map I must complete tasks A, B, and C, none of which I can do *without* the map. Gaaah.
This post is too long. Again, thank you guys for your responses. I feel a million times better after reading all of your support and advice, all of which I will definitely, definitely keep in mind. I feel like I can breathe again after saying what I feel and actually having people listen and understand. I know I still have a million miles to go with all of this, but the lack of suffocation is going to make it easier. I think I'll keep posting here, if I can get past the heart-fluttering fear I get every time I type in the website name (as I said, my dad sees everything I do on the Internet, and I seriously hope he isn't reading this. Perhaps I was too ambitious when I said before that I didn't care if he saw my post or not.)