Posted by:
madalice
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Date: September 21, 2013 01:50AM
Something I realized a long time ago and wish i'd known sooner.
Relics from the past that clutter our lives can become anchors that weigh down our future.
We may not realize it. The pretty little dish, the doily that grandma made, the quilt that lays on the bed, or covers the baby.
Every Holiday the bad memories that are so lovingly stored away are brought out and put front and center for us to see every day for several weeks.
Never mind that granny was a bitch, and that quilt weighs 200lbs and the dish has a pattern that we hate.
Nevermind that our parents were snarky and fought over the chair that dad hated, but mother adored. The dishes have chips and were there for every miserable holiday.
We surround ourselves with these THINGS, and tell ourselves that they are precious. They remind us of the past. A past we are paying $100's of dollars for our therapist to help us recover from.
As the Holidays arrive, we may want to think about this beforehand.
Are we making the recipe we always hated, but feel we have to because our mother or grandmother did? Are we decorating our space with their old memories? Memories we'd rather not have?
WHAT exactly are we doing to ourselves and our children?
Is it time to make OUR memories precious? Time to make our space, our mind, and our time something to value and think about?
Maybe its time to rent a condo and spend Christmas someplace that you've never been. Forget the attic full of old ornaments that remind you of Christmas's you'd rather forget. Maybe its time to pass the old relics onto the local antique store or children that want them.
Just a thought.