Posted by:
elizabet
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Date: September 08, 2014 04:07PM
I have been out of the church for about 4 years now. I didn't have a lot of family ties so it was much easier for me to leave than for most others. There was a very close LDS friend I had that I wanted to share my discoveries with as soon as I felt certain the church was false, manipulative, etc. But no matter what questions I posed or evidence I presented, she would not admit that the church is not perfect in every way. Her family is about as involved as you can be.
I feel personally harmed by the church and could not reconcile maintaining a friendship with someone who denied the source of much pain in my life, so we have been out of touch for a few years now. However, I heard that she is back from a mission and already engaged. I guess my question is, is there any reason to think someone like this will ever change? I still have this tiny hope that this person, who is super intelligent but whose entire life revolves around the church, will someday realize it's all a lie. I think the church has hurt her and her family in ways they don't/won't see. I feel sad that she may be hurting without realizing why, and that she may never understand the pain all this has caused me.