Oh, well. Another wonderful story of how TSCC conditions it's sheeple to put the cult first,
before family, and actually breaks up families, not unites them.

A TBM mother was relating how her missionary son had just returned
from the completion of an honorable mission, but seems to already be moving away from the cult.
He stopped attending church, started dating a gal that he was having carnal relations with
and "God Forbid," they eloped and got married in Vegas.

Enough is enough, at least to these TBM parents
(which BTW, had to get married themselves because of their own pre-marital physicality, shall we say).
He's now, Persona Non-Grata, and they won't have a thing to do with him or her.

My question is, for these pseudo Christians, "What Would Jesus Do in a situation like this?"
Instead, they seem to be asking, "What Would The Church have us do in a situation like this?"

Wasn't it Jesus who taught that if even one of the hundred sheep is lost
that you're to leave the 99 and go recover the one that is lost?
The above parent behavior, which most of us here know is not uncommon to Mormonism,
is the exact polar opposite of traditional Christianity.
Mormons actions speak so loudly, that their pleas to be called Christians are completely drowned out.



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How cold. I could never understand how ANY parent could disown their child.

The only upside, if there is one, is that the son and his new wife are spared the toxicity that comes along with such disapproving and unfeeling parents. I wish the young couple much joy!

+1

Jesus would love unconditionally. And we would be happier and society better off if we did the same. Even if Jesus is a myth, it's still a worthy philosophy. Too bad for these parents. They will learn eventually what it is like to treat a loved one that way.

The TBM parental logic seems to be: "If we aren't going to be together as a family for the eternities, then why bother spending any time together in this life?"

Converesely, when TBM parents are away from the family fulfulling callings and later senior missions, the message is: "We are going to spend eternity together, so we don't need to be together as a family in this life."

Either way, the cult wins and families lose.

If the TBM parents have no contact with their son and DIL then who loses out? It is the parents, of course, who are the losers. Their actions are like cutting off your nose to spite your face.

The difference between family and friends is that we get to choose our friends. How many exmos REALLY want to be friends with hard core TBMs?

Disown figuratively or litterally?

I've been disowned myself. If you don't believe, you don't receive. That's Mormonism.

Whatever happened to "I may disagree with what you do, but I will always love you"?

These parents are unchristian, in word and deed.

Hate the sin but . . . ah what the heck, hate the sinner too.

evil bastards.

some day.

Jesus would love and accept, and I thought (based on my local ward) the church would do the same thing. It sounds like this is a parental 'overkill' stance more than the stance of the church. Although I know all wards have their own culture. How sad that these parents are denying themselves and their son of each other's love and fellowship.

QUESTION - What is TSCC? I know it stands for some sort of church policy, but I can translate the abbreviation. Thanks!

TSCC = the so-called church.

Look on the main page of the website. There should be a list of acronyms that are common to this site.

Ahhh - thank you for the translation. I will check out the abbreviations. Appreciate the help!

"Wasn't it Jesus who taught that if even one of the hundred sheep is lost that you're to leave the 99 and go recover the one that is lost?"

That's exactly what they think they are doing, heretic. By cutting him off they hope to make him feel alone and guilty for taking care of his own needs and desires. Essentially, they want him to know that the price of leaving the fold is losing his family. In their twisted minds, this is supposed to make him want to compromise his values and return home due to his family mistreating him.

My parents did this to me. They believe that they are doing this from a position of love: "He'll come back because he misses us. Cutting him off is for his own good." If anything, it makes me want to stay the hell away from them. People that toxic aren't worthy of being in anyone's life.

Jesus also taught people should walk away from their families to follow him, as is seen in Luke Chapter 14.

What is "christian" or Christ-like is widely left up to interpretation. Disowning your family because of differing non-harmful beliefs can be arguably christian or un-christian; without a doubt, it is wrong.

Ask the money changers down at the temple, who were just engaging in a little free-market capitalism.

My parents are kind of doing the opposite! I was basically ignored unless my parents happen to be driving by my city ( we lived an hour away from them). We were tbm's then.

now that we live 5 hrs away and have resigned from the church, they seem to want to talk to and visit us. They are elderly now, tho and have very few non Mormon -or Mormon- friends, but they are still tbm themselves.

I liked it better when they stayed away! My mother was a verbally/ emotionally abusive person with whom i'd never have a relationship except that she's related to me by blood. I think they aren't shunning for their own needs.

These parents need to get over themselves. They should be happy they got married. They could have shacked up and started a family that way.

Apparently the parents don't care about any future grandkids either.

I can see why the couple eloped. They most likely would have had to endure mountains of preaching and threats for not getting married in the temple. It's just so much easier to side step all that and elope. Either way they couldn't win.

Sounds like one more missionary learned the truth on his mission. That's one more future family that won't be mormon. YAY!