Posted by:
frankenfurter
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Date: May 28, 2013 09:18AM
I've been looking around at a few places about exmormons, and it seems like some exmormons are bitter, but usually only for a while after leaving the church. Most are generally much happier in their lives, but seem to want to warn others not to get involved with the LDS church. But the still Mormon families are incredibly cruel to their family members who leave.
This even happens to me, though it doesn't really bother me, its much more of an an annoyance. However, since it would be invasive to tell other people's experiences, I'll write down my experiences and anyone who would like to comment is welcome to do so.
When I left the church, I got a call from each of my five sisters practically screeching at me about how my apostasy was going to ruin any chance I would ever have of finding peace, happiness or having a strong family. They wept and pleaded with me to go back to the temple and enjoin the spirit before I was lost, forever cast away into outer darkness. My brother was happy to tell me that I would never be able to gain a closeness to god or be blessed if I didn't live as Mormons do. He said that no one could ever be as close to god as Mormons are. In his incredibly shameless way, he basically said that God would be ignoring me henceforth. The most obnoxious part of it is that they all play perfect Mormon moments, but not one of them has attended church in the past five years, unless one of their children was being baptized.
Now, fifteen years after the fact, they're all miserable, they all despise their spouses, they dread church and church obligations like going to the dentist. They all pretend happiness and say their mormon quotable quotes. Half of them have been divorced at least twice and are always embroiled in a custody dispute with an ex who's alleging some crazy thing, which they probably did.
I ended up happily married, with a bunch of kids who I think are actually really cool, very short people. (Not extensions of myself, people of their own.)
I'm split between feeling very sad for their misery and fighting the urge to call them all and rub my happy life in their faces...because they sure can't stand seeing me happy.
Of course, mormons love backbiting, so naturally, when inevitable hardships crop up no matter how trivial they are, including getting a flat tire in my driveway, they Jump all over it as a sign of God's dislike of me and make sure I know that this is due to my apostasy. Being the total snark that I am, I usually respond by asking them why, if they're so faithful, is their life such a mess??
Aside from my oh so witty retorts, I find it ridiculous and mean spirited to just wait for someone to have even the mildest problem and then leap onto them like a rabid, starving coyote with an "ah-ha! See? God hates you!"
The worst of all is the blaming you for things beyond your control. My brother once inferred that a woman's son was born with half a heart because the woman drank iced tea. That's the day I learned that Mormons will believe absolutely anything a man says in an authoritative voice. No one even tried to argue with him other than myself, but the idea, as ludicrous as it is, was already on the wind and she was devastated when she found out what he'd been saying. Why attack someone in such a way? Why make what was likely the worst time in her life an absolute hell all over aga