Posted by:
ambivalent exmo
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Date: January 17, 2013 01:31AM
It's been a while since I posted last, been dealing with many things.
This evening, on the way to dinner, Mr. shocked the hell out of me.
Apparently, his mom went to tithing settlement a few weeks back. Lo and behold, her bish took it upon himself to let it be known that Mr. resigned. Bish also told her the date of resignation, March 2012. So she found out not only that her beloved only son is a filthy apostate, but that he'd been lying about it for almost a year. Whilst throwing me under the bus as a crazy, confused wife....
Wow.
I feel sad for him, not just because he will have to now face what has been in front of him for ten months, but also the repercussions from his tbm family.
I am also confused, furious at the bishop /the whole church, glad I can help him through this, and maybe hopeful that things will improve between us. Hopeful because now he understands first hand part of what I went through. I didn't lie about leaving though...
Anyway, I'm trying to be as supportive as I can. It's a strange twist of events. A bit of a role reversal. Making a conscious effort not to say I told you so, or anything along those lines.
But damn, it is extremely difficult to not go there. I used to wish that he would be able to feel what I felt, be in my shoes for even just a few moments. But now that these events have unfolded, I have realized that I wouldn't wish this bullshit on anyone. No one.
So, I might be asking for advice or venting a bit in the next little while.
His family is not nearly as militant as mine, but there are rough roads ahead. I am hoping that we will be able to weather the coming storm, together. Finally.