Posted by:
Exmo Dad
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Date: January 08, 2013 11:39AM
My nephew, who lives in another country, went on a mission a few years ago (it must have been around 4 or 5 yrs ago)
Because of distance, we aren't really close but my wife and I have always sent basic greeting cards on holidays and birthdays to all our nephews and nieces.
A year into my nephew's mission, he wrote me, thanking me for the birthday card I sent but he also asked why I and my kids no longer go to church?
I responded saying I disagree with some of the church's tenets, and can let him know specifically what they are but was not sure he really wanted to hear them and also I think his parents would be very upset with me if I specifically told him. To which he replied, "I want to know. I won't tell them (his parents)..."
Per his request, I sent him a list of questions (I decided instead of saying "I believe this, I don't believe that..." a list of the questions I had asked myself, which pointed to direct problems within Mormonism would be best way to approach it.) After he got it, he wrote back saying: "I'm sorry, I really can't answer your questions right now. I'm too busy" (As a missionary??? to answer church related questions?) It's possible the mission office also saw the letter and told him what to say in response. Who knows - he was working in the Mission Office at the time.
And guess what else? He told his parents, even though he said he wouldn't (I think because he was very upset that they had always told him positive things about the church) and they (his parents) really hated me after that for quite some time, and are no doubt still leery of me. Although last time I saw them, a year ago, they acted like nothing had happened. So luckily they aren't holding a grudge. I think they don't care because their son/my nephew finished his mission, married in the Temple and has a good job - and they are likely thinking all of those things are enough evidence for him to believe that I was wrong and they are right.
I have heard from this nephew's siblings that he tends to be among the most brainwashed in the family - a yes-man and total mirror image of his father.