Not even a call. Yes, I am disappointed. Can't help it.
We talk about once a month and it is a pretty good truce so I really thought I would at least get a call. Ahhh well. I just WISH I wouldn't feel the pain.
Her son is having an interview today from a Yale graduate in his town. My Gson has applied there and this interview sounds very hopeful. I keep track on Facebook. Gson's great Gfather is a Yale graduate (I married "well" my first marriage) so I hope that helps. Early entrance is in Dec. That would be so major. It would be a full ride but yet, I am hopeful. My side of the family is lacking in formal education.

I will probably call her later in the day. I will hide my feelings about not getting a call and be supportive, forgiving, understanding and all that crap.
Maybe I should of called her Thursday? I never know what's right. damn it

mindlight Wrote:
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> Maybe I should of called her Thursday?

Yup. If things are not happening to your satisfaction, be proactive. The telephone lines go both ways.

I hope that you have a nice conversation with her. Good luck to your grandson!

it's generally just the first person who gets around to it.

but then, we're all non-kolobian

Yes, I agree summer. I set myself up ....

will call today for sure

Changes my perspective, thxs

We didn't call anyone either, and there are no bad feelings in our camp at the moment.

Edited to add: I think it's a lot to expect a call on holidays, or to get hurt or upset about the ack of a call. On Thursday we had friends over, 7 guests in addition to ourselves. I was busy the whole day, there was noise, kids running around, cooking to be done, and hardly a minute to pause. I surely didn't have an hour to call and chat with family. It doesn't mean I don't care about them.



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They chose to spend it handing out cheeseburgers and gloves to the homeless.

We didn't call each other but we have a good relationship and talk often so it doesn't cause either of us pain. We'll talk again soon.

It makes my heart hurt to read about strained relationships between parents here and their children. I'm VERY grateful for the relationship I have with my children. But then, I have strained relations with my parents and I worked hard to keep my children from having reason to be estranged from me. (Not criticizing -- I wasn't in the Morg and I had my own childhood to show me what NOT to do.) :)

I almost drove myself insane with waiting for Mother's Day calls. I began to hate that day and even the whole month of May and whether the kids would send flowers, a card, take me to dinner, ignore it, call me/not call, in advance or afterthought. I wanted to scream.

A few years ago I put an end to it by calling everyone the morning of. That way I have been proactive in expressing MY love and my desire for contact and spared myself the results of my "testing" if I am loved. I never know who wouldn't have called. Eventually I know who didn't call me back, but that's when the day is over so it doesn't ruin the holiday.

Turns out that's a wonderful personal value to add to the list.

I WILL USE HOLIDAYS TO EXPRESS MY LOVE (instead of measuring the love I receive).


Anagrammy

Super!

I think I will do that in the future. Very good idea Ana.
I like it much better than what I have been doing.

This board is so great (at times) lol

silly me, that is perfect to do, Like

mindlight Wrote:
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> Her son is having an interview today from a Yale
> graduate in his town. My Gson has applied there
> and this interview sounds very hopeful. I keep
> track on Facebook. Gson's great Gfather is a Yale
> graduate (I married "well" my first marriage) so I
> hope that helps. Early entrance is in Dec. That
> would be so major.

This is all very encouraging. Good luck to him.

And about the call, I don't know what to say, but hang in there. Maybe a call to her this weekend?

I just got off the phone, I did call her and I am glad I did.
Very pleasant conversation. small steps small steps

Now only if my Gson's friends weren't all LDS. lol
I have faith the college will mean more to him. His interview is in about a half hour. Daughter said it was just a friendly meeting to get to know him.
She also found a great uncle who received an honorary something from Yale (Hamilton Fish Armstrong). Her Dad's side of the family was/is well connected.

fingers crossed and now I feel good about calling her again

thxs

Awesome!