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Date: August 14, 2014 10:18PM
My 19 year-old daughter, who resigned her membership at age 14, shared this story with me about her friend who made it home from Mexico this week. I have put it in bullet points to make it a quicker read.
- She was baptized at age 8 but was never active after parents divorced at a young age.
- She grew up living with her inactive, non-believing mother. Her father and his family are TBM.
- About a year ago at around age 19 she was love-bombed by the young adult singles ward and became active.
- She was pressured to go on a mission, and despite pleadings from her old friends, she decided to go.
- She was called to serve in Mexico but began to have doubts about wanting to go shortly after receiving her call.
- She finally went because of pressure from her father’s side of the family including a grandmother who told her that seeing her granddaughter become active and go on a mission was one of the greatest gifts she could have ever received.
- She went to Mexico and experienced a typical Mexico mission: poor living conditions, dirty water, etc.
- Less than two months into the mission she decided she wanted to come home.
- She told her mission president. He told her that if she went home she would bring shame to herself and to her family, she would be judged to be unworthy, and no one would want to marry her.
- She said that she wanted to go home anyway.
- She asked for her passport. He said he didn’t have it on hand, and that it was a process that would take some time to get it for her.
- He put her with two sister missionaries. With three of them in the companionship she could never be alone. He told them to keep an eye on her continually. She was to have no access to a phone, and she was never to be left alone. (This makes it sound like she was held hostage by her companions, but these sisters were nice and didn’t want to be in that uncomfortable situation either.)
- One day she finally grabbed a cell phone out of a companion’s hand and ran down the street. She called her mother and explained the situation.
- Her mother called the church office building and spoke to a woman who told her that the mission president was wrong and should not be doing that. This woman assured her that they would address the situation quickly.
- Instead of trusting the church to do something, the mother sent her daughter money for a plane ticket and a photocopy of her passport.
- She basically escaped, fled to the airport, bought a ticket and flew home. She arrived home a few days ago with only her mother knowing of her arrival.
- She posted on Facebook to let her friends and family know she was home. Her post on Facebook was as follows:
“My entire life can be described in one sentence: It did not go as planned, but that is okay. As of yesterday, I came home from my mission (and not because I am unworthy or not capable). I loved my short mission; I came to really know God and also myself. While I was in Mexico I started praying the most sincere prayers I have ever done in my life asking what His plan was for me and I received my answers in so many unique ways that a mission was not the plan for me. It was literally the hardest decision of my life but I truly felt that God has a different plan for me. I love the quote by Buddha saying, “In the end, only 3 things matter: How much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of the things not meant for you”. I feel so at peace with my decision even though I know it will be hard because of the inevitable judgments that are in store for me after this. I want all of you to know that I truly love God with all of my heart and I plan to serve him all my life but in different ways like in my family, career, and everyday life. Thank you so much for all of you that supported me in my mission. I love you all.”
- My daughter met her at their favorite coffee shop the day after she got home (three days ago), and needless to say, she is very happy to be home.
I hope to have this brave young lady over for dinner soon.