I can no longer get it up for my wife. I don't know why.

I know that my machinery works because it does its thing sometimes when I see good looking women.

I love her and I still find her attractive. What's the problem? Have I just become bored with her on a physical level?

Should we go to counseling?

Thanks for advice on this sensitive topic.

Quit looking at porn, quit whacking it. If that doesn't work after an honest effort, talk to your doctor.

Such bad advice, such very bad advice. Porn and masturbation do not cause impotence.

Talk to your wife and make sure that this isn't causing any problems with the two of you on an emotional level.

Talk to your physician and do what they tell you to do.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201307/your-brain-porn-its-not-addictive


Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom...... WHAT...... Look what I can do

At least I read your article, no way you watched the TED talk. Weigh the evidence, it's your dick.

I gave Gary Wilson/yourbrainonporn plenty of opportunities to prove their theories right. The bottom line is that He continues to use less rigorous methods in his research. The confirmation bias is strong with Gary Wilson.

No, you don't get it. You disagreed with the TED talk, and since it is so obviously right, you must not have read it, or paid attention to it. Or something.

I think your first step should be to consult your physician.

Q: are you ('still') emotionally connected/attracted to DW?

to me, that would be a precursor to getting an erection.

Go to: www.womensinternational.com

On the left bar of the opening page, under "Practitioners," the first entry is "Practitioner Info Request." Click on it.

It will go to a page where you can get a referral list to physicians and licensed medical providers in YOUR area who are experienced in BIO-IDENTICAL hormone replacement (and, for you, for MEN; there is a place on the form, below the contact info, for you to check for "Male Hormone Therapies").

Below that, is a place for you to request a list of practitioners in your area who treat what you are experiencing right now. (Everything from womensinternational can be delivered either by email, or--on paper--by regular mail; your choice.)

When you go to the local physician or other medical provider of your choice, you will undoubtedly have to have a blood test--and this is vital, because it will give an absolutely true, to the moment, "picture" of the hormones, etc. which are in your body right now. Once this information has been established, the doctor can prescribe the exact right treatment for YOU.

The is by far the best, the most efficient, and the surest way of dealing with YOUR specific problem (whatever it may turn out to be).

Good luck!



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So many suggestions based on so little information.

How old are you?

Do you have children?

Do your children respect your privacy?

Are you and your wife exhausted at the end of the day?

If you and your wife are going on dates, are those dates parallel activities (movies, dinner etc.) or interactive?

When was the last time you and your wife had a vacation without the children?

Do you want to fix this, or are you looking for a start point to the end of a relationship that is in a valley?

Most marriages go through peaks and valleys. Women are able to fake satisfaction during those valley times, or at least they think they can. Maybe you're more intuitive than most men and things aren't going well for either of you and on some level you sense that. I think you need to talk about the aspects of marriage outside of the bedroom as well as inside and see if you can make some changes to better meet each other's needs.

If you have already addressed all of the issues I raised with no success, then I agree that you need to see a therapist.

Good luck.

.....then if you have an erection that lasts more than four hours, call up all your friends and brag.

Since you said you can get it up but not for your wife, its not

a physical thing since it still works. I'd venture a guess

that its a psychological thing. Get a psychologist that you like

and feel comfortable with and he/she can help you determine what

the problem is.

Just because you can still get it up sometimes when you see other women does not mean that you don't have ED. Seriously, see your doc, have your testosterone levels checked. He will have better advice than anyone on this board. I had the same issues start in my 40's, been on T and cialis since then am back to my normal horny self. Wife and I are both happy!

Horny Goat Weed is a herb you can purchase in health food stores. It works for some guys or you can buy generic Viagra etc. online.

I have some of that growing in my yard. Very pretty plant called Epimedium. I've read that it only works for goats.

Take at your own risk.

I like this idea of naming the plant by what you use it for. Excuse me while I get some Minty Pizza Leaf from my garden. I'm making red sauce.

Risk? What risk are you talking about?