Posted by:
Cheryl
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Date: July 19, 2012 11:46AM
I think the only exceptions would be openness and honesty with a spouse and with children who have undergone indoctrination at the hand of a parent.
I'm not saying anyone must disclose everything all at once to kids and spouses but they do in good time deserve to know if and why the exmo has changed their mind about the mormon church.
These people do not have a right to know unless the exmo so chooses: The exmo's parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, best friends, casual friends, aquaintances, neighbors, co-workers, vendors, ward members, church leaders, nor the mail carrier, street sweeper, garbage collector, babysitter, or plumber.
In my opinion religious preferences and church attendance are personal, only to be shared if all parties are comfortable and in agreement.
Ms Manners suggests avoiding personal disclosures about sex, politics, and religion in social settings and the workplace. I agree with her.
I think an exmo's first responsibility is to keep the immediate family as strong and cohesive as possible during recovery. Everyone else needs to be reminded if necessary to tend their own business. This can usually be done in kind tactful ways, but if cornered, exmos have a right to be blunt in self defense.
No one can control how others think and feel. We're doing well if we can learn to take control of **our own** choices, actions, and feelings.