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Date: July 28, 2014 10:42PM
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http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,1338032Beth,
I’m a full Professor of Computer Science, and former department chair, in a PhD granting Computer Science department. I work directly with many students, personally advise a half dozen PhD candidates, review grad school applications, and keep in touch with former students. I’m posting this anonymously because I really have nothing but bad news to convey, and I’m also gonna be a little bit harsh with you.
First of all: CUT THE APRON STRINGS! Do it. Do it now. Why? As a couple other folks posted, your son is an adult. If he wants to get into and succeed in grad school he’s going to have to be self-starting, self-sufficient, self-everything. That’s a given. But let me give you a peek behind the curtain. We actually want to know when a student shows up with their mommy or daddy, because we do NOT want those students in a PhD program. Staff and faculty will be polite, smile, even ask them to pose for pictures, because we want to know who they are and do not want to let them through. I need to know that I can count on Johnny to get things done, assigned tasks, research, papers, etc, without needing parental supervision or help. No one except perhaps a teenaged prodigy ought to show up in a graduate school office with their parents. NO ONE. EVER. If you don’t want to brand your son a mama’s boy, and effectively blackball him from grad school, let him do it himself.
Next, more bad news: the academic job market for CS PhDs right now is abysmal. Sad, but true. In the past couple years we’ve had post-docs working in our department who already have PhDs from “better” schools than both where I teach and where I earned my PhD. A post-doc, in case you don’t know, is essentially someone who’s already earned their doctorate, but for all intents and purposes cannot find a suitable position, so they continue to study and write papers in the hopes of making themselves a better candidate for a future position. Effectively a graduate assistant with a terminal degree. In the old days, “terminal” meant you were done. Now it means that you’re one of the too many candidates for every opening.
As others have posted, a PhD outside of academia simply means that you’re over educated. Frankly, aside from a few choice companies (named by some of the other posters), IT departments in industry do not value advanced degrees, and applicants frequently now “dumb down” their resumes lest they be considered overqualified for mundane meat-and-potato jobs.
Lastly, I want to disabuse you of the notion that you can “get him in” if he just gives you the green light to do so. Honestly, no one in the CS department is going to care that you went to Law School, at that or any other institution. And they shouldn’t, and neither should the reverse, for example, if you had a graduate degree in CS, and he was applying to Law School. “Legacy” means nothing in a legitimate graduate school. There are no networks of folks large and influential enough to “get him in” to a program based on favors and fond reminiscence, spanning schools and departments. Professors have to worry about their reputations, even amongst their colleagues. I like to think I have some influence within my department, but when it comes to admissions I’m just one rater on a committee. I’m not going to campaign for the kid of some lady who went to “our” Law School two decades ago just because someone on campus whom I don’t even know remembers her fondly. And that person’s not even going to try to communicate with me or anyone else in the department that they might know. Does that even make sense? You might be thinking “I saw doctor so-and-so and told him to put in a good word and he said ok…” But that’s standard operating procedure. Why would doctor so-and-so want to spoil a relationship or someone’s memories? It’s easier to just be polite than explaining all of the above and risking hurting feelings or, worse, starting an argument. Besides, there’s a chance that the student might measure up and be admitted anyway, so no need to discourage it. At the same time, if they aren’t admitted you can say, “Sorry, I tried, but…” It’s just easier to be polite than explaining reality. Graduate schools at research institutions are incredibly mercenary.
I guess what I’m saying is that you can’t “work it” to give him a “leg up” or “skew his odds.” You mention that he might not need it but that it can’t hurt. I’d suggest the opposite: you can’t bend the system to his advantage, but you could actually diminish his chances. The harder you push, and the more “influence” you try to exert, the more likely you’ll actually effect his chances detrimentally. Don't believe me? Then take him in and introduce him around the CS department.
When I read your post, it nearly made my teeth curl. Hence my reply. The presumption interspersed with ack ack ack, crap crap crap. Honestly, I hope that you’re just over-brimming with excitement and enthusiasm for your son, and that you don’t really believe all that crap you wrote. Love him. Uplift him. Undergird him with morale support. But, please, if you want him to succeed, don’t think you can go down to the university and kick down doors and knock obstacles out of his way. He’s got to do it himself—all you can do on campus is make him look foolish and undesirable.