Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: July 24, 2014 05:26AM
I need fashion advice. I would like to look appropriate, yet in style. What does an ex-Mormon woman wear to a Mormon funeral? I kept one long black summer skirt and one long black winter long skirt, to wear with any of my work tops that I wear with pants. I threw out the panty hose, because I hate them so much, and still have nightmares of hurriedly wriggling those over my garments, then sitting in Primary chairs with my skirt scrunched up to my thighs, and those white things hanging out. I wear thigh-highs now. No more heels to throw my knees and hips out of alignment and cause me to slip on the ice. I wear Sketchers flats with rubber soles to work.
It was actually fun to get rid of all my church clothes. They were slave uniforms. "Frump" didn't fit into my new lifestyle. When I go to a party, now, it is usually a real party, or a nice wedding reception with dancing, and I like to dress up as much as possible. Bling, jewelry, makeup, perfume, nice hair, and nails done. (Cuter flats, as flats are best for dancing and running around.) I love all that feminine stuff anyway, and a party is a good excuse. Party outfits would be too dressy for church.
At home, I wear jeans or cargos and athletic shoes, because I clean and paint and garden and hike and play with the grandchildren. When I go to bed, I wear sexy pajamas in winter, a skimpy nightgown in summer.
I think what confused me so much about clothes, is that they are an expression of yourself, and I have a lot of different roles. I like pretty colors.
No one would believe how many Mormon books I had--received as gifts, books from my parents, needed for classes--and I had read every one. Not wanting to soil any good minds with the likes of "The Miracle of Forgiveness", I recycled them, to save a tree.
Getting rid of the garments was the most fun of all, in the trash with coffee grounds and kitty litter, and watching the garbage truck load up, and drive away. Gone!