Posted by:
icedtea
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Date: July 21, 2014 11:19AM
It used to frustrate and anger me that marriage was always the only acceptable state for women. While LDS, I went through two thoroughly awful marriages, one more abusive than the other.
While I don't have any bad feelings towards men in general, I have no desire to get married again. I'm enjoying peace, freedom, and coffee, as well as the ability to have whatever kind of spiritual life I want.
But, in a sex cult, people have to be in relationships where they'll breed more members. Our main value to TSCC, I think, is as breeders -- and agents to provide sex for the men. I was never OK with that, even at my most-brainwashed.
Plus, they just don't know what to do with single women, especially divorcees. The married women and the leaders believe that we're desperate, sex-starved creatures who will automatically seduce every married man in the ward. We make the married men very nervous and they avoid us like we have the plague. For years, my home teachers refused to show up -- even the geezerly high priests -- because they just didn't want to deal with a divorced female parent. Pleas for help with household repairs, moving, etc. were largely ignored. All I had to do was show up at church on Sunday and the gossip would start: who is she dating? Why doesn't she stay home and just pray for God to send her a good man? Was that a blue SUV in her driveway last Saturday? She got home after midnight?? Really? She's been out on Friday nights twice this month now -- somebody report her to the bishop!
The single men tend to view us as flavors in the candy store, ego-boosters, or (if we're young, hot, and financially stable enough) potential wives who will provide them with sex, home-cooked meals, clean laundry, step-parenting services, a second income, a nice home, sex, back rubs, emotional support, and sex. (At least, that's what most of them were like when I was active on the single adult circuit a few years ago). Few of the ones I met were interested in me as a person -- it was all about what I could do for them.