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Posted by: Carl Pagan ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 06:00AM

Surely this must have happened..?

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Posted by: anonymousgirly ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 08:46AM

I only have anectodal evidence... So take this with a grain of salt.
Guy I was chatting with online came up to visit me when I was single, he said when he was an RA in the dorms at BYU he hung up an announcement of a life commitment ceremony that stated the couple met when they were companions on their mission.

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Posted by: anonymousgirly ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 08:49AM

Next to it he hung the part in the mish handbook that says missionaries must always sleep in the same room but never the same bed. Cause, you know, that's funny... Or something. Ugh.

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Posted by: anon for this ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 09:11AM

It happens sometimes. Someone I know told me it happened to him. I don't know the details, but he and his companion had a mini-affair.

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Posted by: gentleben ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 09:17AM

I know of at least two cases on my mission. I think far more came out after the mission, and likely struggled during. I couldn't imagine as a heterosexual male being required to maintain 24 hour contract with a 19 year old female for 2 years and not have sexual relationships. Especially given the pressure to have and share intimate spiritual experiences, those emotions would definitely cross over into sexual attraction.

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Posted by: CL2 ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 01:11PM

Of course, later on, the fact that he messed around with a few of his companions came out some 25 or so years later. It would be interesting to ask him again.

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Posted by: Anonforthistoday ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 01:17PM

This definitely happens.
I dated a guy (I'm a guy) who gave hand jobs to his companion on his mission. His companion felt guilty and confessed. Both were sent home.

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Posted by: nonsequiter ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 02:02PM

I wish this had happened to me!

Although 90 percent of my companions were a real turn off.

I told one I was gay and he automatically assumed I was in love with him. But honestly he was very gross, maturity wise.

My trainer though, was H O T.
He did push ups every night, in just his garment bottoms, before bed and he asked me if I could watch and keep count for him, of course I obliged!



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/04/2014 02:02PM by nonsequiter.

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Posted by: nomonomo ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 02:29PM

nonsequiter Wrote:
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> I wish this had happened to me!
>
> Although 90 percent of my companions were a real
> turn off.
>
> I told one I was gay and he automatically assumed
> I was in love with him. But honestly he was very
> gross, maturity wise.
>
> My trainer though, was H O T.
> He did push ups every night, in just his garment
> bottoms, before bed and he asked me if I could
> watch and keep count for him, of course I obliged!

Dude couldn't count his own push-ups? Hmmm....
Methinks he wanted the attention.

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Posted by: nonsequiter ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 05:57PM

He did like attention now that I think about it.

For him it was not anything sexual though.

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Posted by: Finance Clerk ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 02:42PM

Early 80's Montreal. My trainer who was DL had weekly "splits" with the zone leader. They never left the apartment all day long. It drew some surprised looks when they would meet up on Sundays for meetings and give each other a big lip smouch. They were both pretty arrogant.

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Posted by: Book of Mordor ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 05:38PM

I don't doubt you, but I never heard about any of that. I'd have thought the gossip mill would have gone into overdrive. Can't imagine who they were, but I'd remember the names if I heard them. Damn, this'll bug me now.

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Posted by: Finance Clerk ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 09:07PM

Oh it sure happened. It was in the zone that encompassed Pointe Claire Ward. Trying not to give away too much, but one's last name ryhmes with "Ripp". Althugh I never spoke to him after we transferred apart, I hear he stayed in Utah after the mish and had at least one kid. The other one starts with "W" , eventually made AP, and was supposed to be some kind of Hollywood royalty. I think they both went to Ottawa (not sure if as a companionship) for several months.

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Posted by: Book of Mordor ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 09:46PM

I believe you. I've been ripping up my long-term memory neurons, and I think I just might remember them. I was in Dorval (Kirkland Ward) and then NDG/Westmount between January and October 1981. These guys might have been in Dollard-des-Ormeaux, which I think served the Pointe Claire ward.

The "W" guy must have been made AP after I went home in June 1982.

First time in over 30 years I regret throwing away those f***ing CMM Messenger newsletters.

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Posted by: Levi ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 02:58PM

Yep.

It happened with me and my favorite companion.

Oddly enough we were together twice. The second time was a personal favor to me by the AP.

:-)

That period of the 2 years was well worth all the other stress, headache, anxiety and dread. A few months of just heaven.

We would teach and play footsie under the kotatsu or table.

We would hold hands secretly in church.

We would cuddle on the couch while reading the cult ensign rag.

And yes, we had fun. He would get irritated when he noticed I had rubbed one off without him.

I miss the guy.

He is married now with (I'm sure) a gaggle of kids.

Damn, he was a good guy. Sincere, nice and caring right down to his core.

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Posted by: takafumi ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 11:57PM

All that kotatsu talk is making this Japanese RM jealous. I was way too good for way too long. I can think of a couple of wasted opportunities in retrospect. Dang.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/04/2014 11:57PM by takafumi.

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Posted by: Inverso ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 03:35PM

Yeah, I messed around with a companion.

In fact... I'm taking a workshop on making documentary films and my plan so far is to make a 5 or 6-minute short on this very topic. I just need more (local) people to agree to talk about it.

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Posted by: ozpoof ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 03:50PM

Like some heterosexual men in prison who go "gay for the stay", you have 2 young dudes with hormones raging and nowhere to release.

All it would take to break the ice is for one missionary to catch the other masterbating and reveal that he too needs a good wank.

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Posted by: nope. ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 04:00PM

It doesn't work that way, Ozpoof.

In prison there is literally nowhere to go, and you are caged with other males.

On a mission, you can always sneak off in search of what you really want.

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Posted by: ozpoof ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 04:16PM

Oh really?

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Posted by: EXON46 ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 05:41PM

I still fantasize about my mission. I had a few situations that didn't develop in my favor.

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Posted by: Pugsly ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 08:11PM

My smoking hot brother hooked up with a set of Elders who lived across the hall from us.
I came home from class to find booze on the table, two missionary uniforms complete with garments on the floor, and TWO ties on his bedroom doorknob.
They must have had a great time because they spent many, many hours in his room after that!

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Posted by: Carl Pagan ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 09:13PM

Thanks for your responses! I REALLY hope uptight Mormons are reading this...!

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Posted by: closer2fine ( )
Date: July 04, 2014 10:12PM

Lol..... not for me, but that would have been AWESOME!

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Posted by: BYUboner ( )
Date: July 05, 2014 12:32AM

This is the 21st Century, who gives a fuck if they did!

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