I've been in the church my whole life, but been struggling with some doctrinal issues for several years. Told my wife about 5 years ago that I was struggling. Her very understanding response was to get pissed off at me and call me a liar. I've been quiet but questioning since. And not once since then did she ever bother to ask how I was doing. All was well in Zion as long as I just shut up and kept going.

I had an epiphany- an answer to prayers- last Saturday night at the priesthood session, during Monson's talk when he told of a father's advice to his boy: "If you find yourself somewhere you ought not be, get out." And it hit me, stronger than anything ever has. It's time to get out.

I'll be out. Soon.

Congratulations, but brace yourself for the buffetings of Satan and the dark hue that will fix itself to your countenance as you look in the mirror (it can be quite startling).

Ha ha...all kidding aside, it is a bit scary transitioning away from your old superstitious world view, but ultimately worth it...good luck!



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Congrats and check back in with us often. It probably won't be easy but IT WILL BE WORTH IT!

Good luck. Leaving the church while having a believing spouse can be tricky.

There must be something about the five year mark. I continued to go to church for about that time after I stopped believing, until one day I just decided that enough was enough. I quit going to church a few months ago. Even though it's been really hard because I have a TBM husband, I have to say that I don't miss the church even one little bit. I don't ever want to go back.

I wish you the best of luck, I hope your wife can be accepting if not understanding. This sounds like one of the most difficult things you will ever do, but you've got people standing beside you 100%.

jedmunds2 Wrote:
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> but you've got people standing beside you 100%.

Yes...Very much...Yes...

Thanks, everyone. I'm just deciding how to break the news. Already talked to her. Parents and family will be another issue- I have ancestors all over church history. I'll keep you posted.

Best wishes, curtis.

Curtis..first off, I almost named my son Curtis. Love your name. Sorry, about the contention heading your way. You have something great to offer if you are willing to live your life according to your opinions and life driven decisions. Hold strong to that inate drive. Only you know the way to your happiness. I hope your wife will understand your shift also. Take baby steps with her perception, but make her feel loved too. Choppy waters for sure..anchor yourself!

I wrote a letter to break the news. I would suggest you write one to get all your thoughts down and make sure you're coming across the way you want to (polite, respectful, or however else you want to do it). You don't have to break the news with the letter, but it does help to write one to collect your thoughts.

And then if you chicken out of saying it, you have a backup plan!

curtis Wrote:
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> I had an epiphany- an answer to prayers- last
> Saturday night at the priesthood session, during
> Monson's talk when he told of a father's advice to
> his boy: "If you find yourself somewhere you ought
> not be, get out." And it hit me, stronger than
> anything ever has. It's time to get out.
>
> I'll be out. Soon.

My best wishes are with you now for the smoothest and easiest transition possible, Curtis...

...and the best possible and happiest landing which can be yours...

Tevai