S E X is my new favorite topic. Can't stop thinking about it. Forget reading about how the church messed up the first 35+ years of our lives. Wife and I enjoy talking about boundaries with porn... she is reading a lot about female masturbation. And woowee its fun to experiment new things. Here's the deal... she is fine with me exploring now, its more than I could ever ask for. Free to masturbate, free to look at some light porn, but why the fear or cloud of guilt? I'm surprised by the green light from wife, but putting the red light or yellow light on myself.

Isn't feeling like a sinner the point? *devilish grin*

Try finding some porn that you are both interested in looking at and watch it together. Once you do this a few tines and you can clearly see that she is comfortable with it then it should be loads easier to look some up on your own.

You Lucky Dog!

My wife of 29 yrs. caught me looking and now she wants a divorce and she is even NOM.

Count your lucky stars my friend.


Amen...

You should show your wife the tasteful erotica website, ifeelmyself.com It would be good to watch it together and then discuss what you think about it. It will be helpful to do this as a couple.

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> S E X is my new favorite topic. Can't stop
> thinking about it...

Nothing strange about that...

Unless we are here talking "snuff films," or bondage
stuff that has real torture, or productions that take cruel
advantage of kids, poverty stricken "performers," and
the like.

I once saw a documentary on how the porn "industry" uses
desperate heroin addicts for some filming. How can an
observer watch such stuff and not feel "like a sinner?"

On the other hand, a provocative "selfie" e-mailed from
your soon-to-be spouse probably doesn't take advantage
of anybody.

Figure out for yourself where to draw the line.

UD

. one word for ya


tantra

I used to have some guilt about it...but I got over it...

Ron Burr

just make sure your porn has only biblically clean animals and not too many amputees.

It it weren't for the carnal aspect , sex would be impossible . Analyze that !

Except for that GM who's name escapes me who fathered a herd of kids and claims never to have seen his wife starkers....PULLEEEEZE!!

Ron Burr

You are one lucky person and you want to feel guilty (?).

Porn wasn't an issue for me, but I had a really hard time with profanity. Have you ever seen The King's Speech? If not I highly recommend it. I related to it in one way in particular.

I knew intellectually that there was no reason to be afraid of the word "fuck," but I couldn't bring myself to say it. I had hidden from the word and reinforced taboos against it for so long that I felt awful and guilty just thinking about saying it.

So what did I do? I said "fuck" over and over again, to myself, and then eventually in front of other people that I knew approved of it. I wasn't trying to be vulgar, I was simply trying to erase my mental barriers, and it worked. It didn't take long at all.

Just do it.

Just fucking do it?

Just my own experience here: Porn-ified, toy-ified sex is rarely satisfying. It's a race to more intense thrills until I have to admit all I really ever wanted was to give and receive a good massage from my sweetheart and to make slow emotional love. Everything else is just for fun and for me usually isn't what I'm in the mood for.

The "guilt" feeling could be just you noticing there's nothing emotional going on while you are watching porn, just excitement. Nothing to be ashamed of or to be disgusted with (unless the porn actually is disgusting and demeaning), but it is definitely less fulfilling and satisfying than true love making and you are going to notice a difference.



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Think of it as a self-sevice checkout.