Posted by:
NoLoveThisChristmas
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Date: December 26, 2013 04:06AM
Thanks to everyone for the posts, I appreciate the insight.
Sorry to the folks thinking this thread would be nice and sexy, I wish even more than you that it was.
To fill in a few holes that other posters have commented on:
-Gym exercise is part of what I get paid to do, so, its considered me going to work, not recreating. She expects it, its how her credit cards get paid off.
-I did not raise my voice during this ordeal, I don't raise my voice in general.
Now, let me return and report on the happenings of the 25th.
After the meltdown on the 24th, it was lights out and everyone to bed. I had decided to let this thing ride and say nothing else until after the new year. The first two things I hear this morning are.
"Daddy, Santa left a huge box in the living room and we need you to come help open it (The sun rays pierce the clouds in my heart, just like a movie)
Then a growl from the other side of the bed.
"Soooo... are you wearing you garments today? If not, you need to stay home while me and the kids go visit my family."
I'm thinking WTF to myself, its Christmas morning and that's the first thing she says. In an effort to prevent my childrens Christmas day from going up in flames, I reluctantly put them on, yuck. I now feel like Joe Smith himself is the ghost of Christmas present.
Gift opening starts at 7:00AM and I am getting the solid cold shoulder, not even a glance, I don't exist to her at this point. At least my beaming little ones are excited and I make every effort to not let this spoil their morning.
I'm now in the shower, its 10:00AM, I'm now about to make first contact, she pokes her head into the bathroom and says in a growling tone,
"You really need to get your act together and start doubting you doubts, if you don't, I'm getting a really good attorney."
I respond,
"I think Elder Uctdorf in the same talk said that you should really offer respect to those who don't think the same as you, specifically, that you can't assume their desire to leave is based on sin or being offended."
She responds,
"I don't really care what that talk says (oh really, you just quoted it), plus, your a liar, nine years ago you made a temple covenant to me to love me and take care of me, now that your leaving the TSCC, you'll want sex with other women and porn (I only wish I could wrap my head around her weird fascination with sex and exmo's)"
I respond,
"Actually, I plan to stand to my vows, nothing has to change, I don't disagree with TSCC points on maintaining and feeding a healthy marriage."
She Responds,
"Well, you'll be breaking your covenant with God, therefore your breaking your vows with me. Our whole marriage has been a waste of my life (WTF!! I'w thinking). I always thought you were a risky choice, your independence has been way to much for me to handle, now your independent thinking has turned into selfishness (apparently leaving the TSCC is considered selfish even though the 11th article of faith suggests otherwise). Your selfishness is going to ruin this family. I'm thinking its time to end this."
I make the best of the day with other family and the children, but between me and the wife, nothing the rest of the day, she doesn't even respond when I engage in conversation. Even though I'm pretty convinced at this point this train has reached the end of its line, I'm still going to take my time and see what happens.
Lessons learned today:
-I think she really does want to divorce me
-Real people with real emotions and real lives are not as important as the fairy tales told in young womens
-At least this TBM thinks exmos want to have sex with everyone once the mind lock is removed
-I think I'm dealing with an abusive individual
Just in case, anybody know of a good attorney for handling crazy TBM divorces?