Posted by:
MJ
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Date: November 23, 2013 12:22PM
I can finally tell this story. I no longer work for the same company or with the woman, so I feel I can finally tell the story of The Mormon Woman and Gay Marriage.
3 days after I had started a new job, the subject of gay marriage came up in a conversation with a woman that worked with me. During he discussion, she revealed that she was Mormon and I reviled that I was gay. She was anti-gay marriage, I, of course, was pro gay marriage.
Of course I was able to counter every argument she had against gay marriage. She tried to claim that the LDS church was not involved in Prop 8, I asked her why they reported that they were and later fined for under reporting their involvement if they were not involved. You should have seen her face when she realized she could not deny what her church admits.
In the end, she put an end to the conversation with "I don't care about all of that, I will support any other gay rights, but I will fight against gay marriage for the rest of my life".
A few weeks later, she announced that she was getting married. For weeks there was a constant barrage of wedding plans. She was so excited and happy.
Then one day, she was bubbling about her wedding plans with another woman. I was trying to ignore her. She then looked over and said "Poor Matt, he must be so 'over' all this wedding talk".
I looked at her and said (condensed version):
"No, I am not 'over' it. I am happy and excited about you getting married. But ever time you talk about it, it reminds me. It reminded me of the happiness and excitement you are enjoying, but that you would deny me. It is not about being over it, just every time you talk about it hurts me deeply. I wish I could be happy and participate in your excitement, but it just hurts too much."
You should have seen her reaction and the reaction of the woman she was talking to.
From that day on, she never brought up her wedding around me. If someone else brought it up and I was around, she would change the subject.
Did she have no idea that telling me that she would oppose gay marriage for the rest of her life was hurtful? Did she really need it spelled out to understand?
Phhhht.