Any big surprises? For example, you obviously knew there was a penis involved, but did the balls catch you off guard?

Just how sheltered are the ladies prior to wedding night?



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Women --- let this be a warning to you !
Don't get married ! There might be nudity and sex involved !



"Uh ... Uh ... Uh ... I don't think it goes there ! Ow ! Ow! Ow !"



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I wonder how mormon gals were shocked when they saw full grown male genatalia, and if the shocked embaressed the hubby.

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> I wonder how mormon gals were shocked when they
> saw full grown male genatalia, and if the shocked
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I've still never seen full grown male genitalia. LOL

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> I've still never seen full grown male genitalia.
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I meant an adult male's parts. lol most girl's probably seen a baby boy's parts

My wife and I had read several pre-marriage books which went through everything in detail. We talked positions prior. We were both excited. So for Mormons we were pretty well educated going into it. Probably a bit on the liberal side for Mormons though.

I'm interested to hear some stories from really hardcore sheltered Mormons. I'm sure there are some really sad stories out there.

I know of a couple who didn't even begin to try, and just played Uno instead.

Another couple couldn't get anyone to have an orgasm, so they just gave up partly though and went to bed.

One other mo couple I know just went to bed instead of trying.

Then plenty of hearsay through the rumor mill about crying afterwards, crying beforehand, crying during, lots and lots of crying.

is sex that bad?? :(

Get rid of your crazy conservative religious views on sex and suddenly it becomes awesome. Let the church control your bedroom activities and suddenly it becomes traumatic.

My TBM brother in law once lamented "sex is over rated" I said "then you're probably doing it wrong"

gee ... so no I was not shocked but surprised in a positive way THAT a male genitalia CAN grow that much...^^

I know that there were balls and how it works theoretically...actually we didn't talk about prior and simply did it in our wedding night. Learning-by-doing.

on the other hand a friend of DH told him after his wedding night vaginas are gross and disgusting and asked for advice "how to like this ugly thing"
A lot of unmarried friends of me wants to know how it feels, look like and how to ....I think most of the girls know what to expect and they must have grown up in the woods and being homeschooled or what ever if they don't know anything about.
Even with SisMishies I talked about what is going on between male and female.

what it must be like for them. My 20-year-old nevermo wife was a virgin but I wasn't. Even with just one of us being a virgin, it wasn't easy. It certainly wasn't bad, but it wasn't easy because I was so afraid of hurting her.

She has three brothers so I think she knew what a male should look like, but seeing the equipment and actually using it are two very different things.

In retrospect, my first conquest, a good Mormon girl, was either pretty experienced or an extremely quick study where sex was concerned.



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ugh I hope it doesn't hurt for me.

I was just worried about hurting her because she's 5'2" and under 100 lbs, so I didn't know how much room she would have. I don't wish to be too explicit on this family-friendly forum. With anywhere near normal anatomy and a bit of wine for relaxation almost anyone can get through it relatively pain-free.

I think whether or not you still have a hymen is a huge factor in how much pain you feel that first time. Mine was long gone by the time I had sex. For all I know, I never had one. So if you're really worried jujubee, figure out if yours is intact.

wow, do you really want to know? Okay.

I was a virgin when I married at 20. I had glimpsed (literally) a couple of naked males but of course like a good girl looked away in embarrassment when that happened. Never saw one erect, though. Saw books and drawings and sort of knew how it was supposed to go.

After the temple marriage we went and got in the car to go to the hotel. I had never seen the husband nude. He was experienced. On the way there he put my hand on his crotch and I was embarrassed and shocked how hard it felt.

Got to the hotel, when it was time for bed I kept delaying, watching tv, going in the bathroom, trying to figure out what to do in the stupid garments. How do you get naked or feel sexy in those things?? They really put a damper. Husband was raring to go, wanting to 'get his virgin' and I was scared and sweating bullets, hiding in the bathroom pretending to be getting ready. Finally got in bed with him and was really a nervous wreck about the whole thing and had no, zero idea what to do. So he was very excited and got started quickly so it hurt a bit and then he said 'can I just come now?' and what was I supposed to say?? I said 'okay' and then it was over and I was sore.

Of course, it got easier and more relaxed from there but even though we had lots of sex over our decade of marriage, I don't even remember if I ever had an actual orgasm until we got divorced and I had a new partner. One who was really good and cared how I felt and WOW, was that an eye opener. And boy did I go a little crazy after that with the partners. Then I settled back down and now I am 'experienced' enough, really find it enjoyable and am comfortable enough to show a virgin the ropes ;)

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Yup!

Done that too!

Very nice experience for both of us.

:D

Um... we were both mormon virgins... our wedding night was AWFUL.

And yes, it was shocking to see his package. hahaha! Man, we were both sooo sheltered!

I feel the need to throw in there that I love my husband and our sex life is much better now. :)

I WAS surprised. I couldn't get in the mood because the temple and thoughts of polygamy were such a turn off. It took two weeks.

Mormonism is a passion killer. I kept thinking how my new husband must be a sexist pig because he joyfully voted for the plan of salvation and therefore polygamy in the pre-existence.

Seriously? Never saw their dad by accident coming out of the shower, NEVER? Never saw a picture or a loose swim trunk at the pool? Never kissed a guy so you could feel it through their clothes? I guess I am the shocked on now. I didn't know it was possible to get married and have NO IDEA what you'd be getting. I wasn't a virgin when I got married, but the first time I wasn't shocked because I had necked with him so many times that I could hardly wait.

I just wish somebody had mentioned the word "lubricant" to us. Both of us being so nervous didn't help matters. It would have made the first time enjoyable instead of somewhat traumatic. We were both virgins, but I'd seen some porn. I never saw them take some time to put on the lube, I was clueless.

Enoch - we were told not to kiss like that before we got married - so we didn't. And no, I had never seen an interested one before!

I was a clueless guy the first night so I phoned my older brother what to do. He was so irritated that I was calling him so late at night that he just told me “Just put the hardest thing you have into the place where she pees!” It seem odd what he said, but I never-the-less put my bowling ball into the toilet.

Mmmmm. Was it a spare or a strike?

I've also wondered if it's common with mormons for them not to have sex on wedding night at all. I mean, it could be a very uncomfortable end to the best day in their lives for some of them.

I worked with a gal who was so upset after weeks of marriage that she was not pregnant. Finally, she confided to a coworker that she always thought a gal could get pregnant by being close to sperm or getting it on her skin. Turns out they had never actually had intercourse and didn't seem to know how. Needless to say, they got divorced.

I read a religious blog once - an exit forum like this, but non-LDS and a highly conservative religion.

The couple was concerned about the wife being infertile. They had been married over a year and had "intercourse" regularly.

It turns out the man had only had "backdoor" sex in his lifetime and had been trying to impregnate his wife this way.

The doctor had to show him a diagram of the correct entryway.

I didn't even know it got hard, and actually went all the way in the vagina... I just thought the tip went in. Is that sheltered enough? Lol

Me too! Ugh. I have since read some books and taken human anatamy in college, so I am a lot less sheltered now :) Of course, I felt guilt reading marital intamancy books without being engaged. Now I am glad I did.