Posted by:
anonforthisone
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Date: October 12, 2013 06:21PM
TBM Ex and I have been divorced a long time. We have kids together. Some are teenagers. He lives far away, has been remarried for several years and has more kids with wife #2. He's in town for the weekend, visiting the kids who still live here. Some are still Mormons, some aren't (but no one has resigned officially, including me).
In the past, he has been overbearing and pushy about church. He flew out to ordain one of our boys (in order to make sure it got done). This trip, he wants the kids (including the ex-mo ones) to go to church together in the ward my house is in; he invited me to attend, too. Then he wants us to all have a family dinner together at my house.
He's not wearing his wedding ring, either (although he's been without it a few times in the past). He and wife #2 got sealed in August after several years of marriage. (Both of them are not-nice people who have done crappy things to my kids in the past, but I digress...).
This all feels very weird to me. Ex was somewhat verbally and emotionally abusive to me during our marriage and for years afterward. He is controlling and doesn't respect boundaries. (He showed up at my house this morning to pick up the kids, even though I'd asked him not to because I hadn't cleaned).
Now he's being very nice. He even invited me to go out for dessert with him and the kids last night (although he made a point of not paying for mine).
I am confused. I don't get his behavior. I'm not sure if I should go to church with them just to do damage control (in case he tries to push religion down their throats yet again), or decline the invitation. They are only attending Sacrament meeting so they can watch football on TV after (again, at my house!).
I'm also tempted to go because of the effect it will have on wife #2. I know that is selfish and immature of me, but gosh darn it, she has done some hateful things to my kids (no physical abuse or threats).
On the other hand, I really dislike LDS church services.
Any suggestions?