So which Mormon meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike (hate) the most?

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All the young mothers holding babies and they all seemed to have this little simpering smile. \"Look at me! Perfect LDS Womanhood!\" It just bored me to tears.</p>\n<hr />\n<p>forbiddencokedrinker<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nPriesthood. Total sausagefest.</p>\n<hr />\n<p>pamarnold<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nRS [relief society] used to be great, but they turned it into a watered down Sunday School lesson that was so boring and everyone\'s eyes would glaze over.</p>\n<hr />\nexmollymo<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nSunday School - so stupid! Even as a TBM I skipped it a lot.\n<hr />\n<p>jaredsotherbrother<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nStake conference. From the interminable drive to get there to the uber boring content of the talks. No hanging out with friends before or after the meeting, and no sliver of sacrament bread to assuage my hunger. The only ray of light was on the way home, a massive billboard for Harrah\'s that was covered with scantily clad showgirls.</p>\n<hr />\norphan<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nI hated priesthood meetings the most because that is where the fiction turned to fantasy or vise versa.\n<hr />\n<p>justbreathe<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nPriesthood meeting. I was in the Elders Quorum Presidency and had fun while in there, but when I was released, my liberal views didn\'t catch well when they put me as a teacher. I tried to push \"my agenda\". By the way, I am still a member, but trying to figure out how/when to leave completely (family reasons).</p>\n<hr />\nSorcha<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nActually, when I was teaching the Beehives, the meeting that caused me to question my \"faith\" was the lesson I was supposed to teach these 12- and 13-year-olds that NOTHING should interfere with their marrying a worthy priesthood holder. As an adult convert--and independent woman, mind you--I was ... stunned. THAT was a turning point for me.\n<p>Did I teach the lesson? ... Sadly, yes. I was a brainwashed TBM at the time. But shortly thereafter I asked to be released (and refused to return to church until I was released). My cog dis shelf was about to collapse.</p>\n<hr />\n<p>liberalbutteffer<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nCan I count girls camp is a meeting? It was when I fooled into thinking that the peace I felt being surrounded by nature was really the spirit and when I was stupid enough to believe that it was healthy for these sobbing girls to go up on the stage and give their testimonies about how the church helped them get over their depression, loss of family, loss of pets, etc.</p>\n<hr />\nJoe Laban<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nSunday School is so boring so I leave to have a cup of coffee and listen to MormonStories.org podcasts. Now that is Sunday School.\n<hr />\nnowI\'mfound<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nCouldn\'t stand RS. Gag!\n<hr />\nnowI\'mfound<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nDry counsel sunday. Snoozers! About the time they\'d say, \"We bring you the greetings and love of our Stake President,\" my brain had already checked out.\n<p>And we NEVER went to stake conference EVER. What\'s the point of it? The high counsel speaker shares the stake\'s themes each month, and anything church-wide is shared during general conference. What\'s the point of stake conference. Huge, over-crowded waste of time.</p>\n<hr />\n<p>mav<br />\nThe \'interview\' meeting with the bish at 12 years of age asking inappropriate<br />\nquestions. Parents who did not know about it or did and did not care. I felt it was a setup and I had no control over any of it. Never felt safe in that \'church\' from then on.</p>\n<hr />\n<p>48erhater<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nsacrament meeting. I stopped going to church at 15 years old. The other two meetings me and the other guys would mess around. Which made the other two meeting more bearable.</p>\n<hr />\nMakurosu<br />\nI hated that monthly stake leadership meeting.<br />\nMost boring meeting in the Universe. I don\'t think I ever made it through one.\n<hr />\namos2<br />\nStake \"stewardship\" meeting<br />\nWhen I was elders quorum president.<br />\nOnce a month, at 6am on a sunday, we met with the stake presidency in the high council room.<br />\nWe reported home teaching, including forwarding the names of people no longer residing in our ward who were encumbering our roster, because they count as not contacted until then...it was like bailing out a leaky boat. The names arrived faster then we could bail them out.<br />\nI tried to be a quality home teacher. I mowed an old lady\'s lawn every week. I drove a terminally ill man to appointments and cleaned his house. It was always a weekly thing for me and often daily, not monthly. I could easily spend 8 hours a week on just a few people.<br />\n...but in stake \"stewardship\", it was purely the numbers and corporate interest.\n<hr />\nMia<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nSince I refused to go to them for the last 20 years, I would have to say relief society. Nobody in that room is getting any relief from anything! It was an insult to humanity in my opinion.\n<hr />\n<p>confused<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nI have never enjoyed Relief Society and I don\'t have any good reasons to not be in there anymore, like being in Primary or taking care of a baby. So now I skip it &amp; they always check up on me asking why they didn\'t see me in there. Tomorrow I am going to church but I know that I won\'t be able to make myself sit through RS. Hopefully it will be one of the last Sundays.</p>\n<hr />\nforbiddencokedrinker<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nAnd now, the GA\'s don\'t even leave Utah to come visit all the various Stakes, they instead just phone it in like a second General Conference.\n<hr />\n<p>myselfagain<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nI can really relate to the post about teaching the YW. I very seldom used the text and would try to make it as honest as I could for the girls. The text is so outdated and stupid that at times the girls would ask me \"Sister X? What are they talking about?\" That is why I couldn\'t just parrot the words. They deserved better.</p>\n<hr />\nMakurosu<br />\nI have to tell the story about the last time my ex-wife went to \"homemaking\" meeting.<br />\nMy ex has multiple degrees in business management and finance, and she really was never a homemaking kind of girl. I knew that going in with her, and I always supported her career goals. She came home from a Relief Society homemaking meeting once, walked in and slammed all the doors. When I asked what was wrong, she said that they had made pioneer ladies out of Mrs. Butterworth bottles, and they treated her like she was the stupidest person in the world because she just isn\'t a craft person. She was being a good sport and doing this stupid thing, because she felt she wanted to fit in to a church that she didn\'t really believe in. I heard from someone in the ward that she smashed hers in the parking lot after the meeting.\n<p>She never went to another homemaking meeting, and I think that experience was the beginning of the end for her and the Mormon church.</p>\n<hr />\nlaluna<br />\nRe: I have to tell the story about the last time my ex-wife went to \"homemaking\" meeting.<br />\nThis has me rolling on the floor laughing my butt off!! Pioneer ladies out of Mrs. Butterworth??? Are you making this up or was that really the craft?\n<hr />\nL.A.EX<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nZone Conferences in the mission! Nothing worse than overbearing 19-21 year olds all trying to win the Mr. Spirituality award to impress the Mission President and gain the coveted AP position.\n<hr />\nTanqueray &amp; Tonic<br />\nRe: I have to tell the story about the last time my ex-wife went to \"homemaking\" meeting.<br />\nHilarious.\n<hr />\nmyselfagain<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nThe Mrs. Butterworth story was priceless and I can SO see it happening! I am not crafty either and have often been looked at with a mix of scorn and pity because making sugar cube temples and pipe cleaner crafts was not my forte. *sigh*\n<hr />\nMakurosu<br />\nI\'m completely serious.<br />\nYeah, absolutely ridiculous. And here\'s me with a woman who wants to punch someone in the face, and I can barely contain my laughter at the notion of grown women making pioneer ladies out of Mrs. Butterworth bottles. She\'s BLACK, you know. We were talking about that one for a long, long time.\n<hr />\nsuckafoo<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nPregnant ladies crying with emotion every Sunday ...\n<hr />\n<p>suckafoo<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nThey made clay nativity scenes in December. Baby Jesus was shaped like a little sausage. I felt bad for throwing it away because someone worked a long time making all the little parts.</p>\n<hr />\nfreeman<br />\n+1<br />\nDefinately Penishood for me too.\n<hr />\nfreeman<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nI used to skip Priesthood, go to the pub, play a couple of games of pool and drink a smooth pint.\n<hr />\ncl2<br />\nThanks for the laugh!<br />\nMy ex just said, \"Where did they get all the Mrs. Butterworth bottles? Did they tell the women to start collecting them earlier?\"\n<hr />\ncl2<br />\nALLLLLLLL meetings. Stake conference was one of the worst.\n<hr />\n<p>willyjames<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nGen Conf Talks - can\'t stand the \'conference-ease\' voices, the sisters were the worse</p>\n<hr />\nWinksWinks<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nWhichever meeting got me the closest scrutiny.\n<p>Sac meeting, no problem, sit just far enough away from daddy\'s arm\'s reach and doodle.<br />\nPrimary/YW, no problem, sit on the end of the row away from the teacher and doodle.<br />\nThe individual classes? Not good. There were already few enough kids around that we could sit arrayed in front of the teacher, as few as 3 or 4 kids when they combined two year classes. Hard to doodle with the teacher watching, although sometimes I tried to say I was taking notes.<br />\nPersonal interviews? The worst! I still can\'t do interviews well at all! Gah!</p>\n<p>And then I left before 18, so I\'ve never suffered RS. :D</p>\n<hr />\nrodolfo<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nNo question, PEC and ward council.\n<hr />\nMarcionite<br />\nRe: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike<br />\nI got to where I hated them all, but I guess the ones I hated the most were PEC, Ward Council, gossip meetings.\n<p>When not in leadership I truly hated priesthood. What a stupid meeting. I never felt like I fit in with the mentality. I wasn\'t one of the bigoted good old boys.</p>\n<p>DW could never stomach relief society. In our 30 years of marriage she only attended a few times.</p>\n<hr />\nMakurosu<br />\nI asked that too.<br />\nShe said they were told beforehand to bring them in. I have visions of someone stopping to pick one up on the way to the meeting and emptying it out on a street corner. I wonder what they would have done if someone had accidentally brought in an Aunt Jemima bottle.\n<p>\"Recovery from Mormonism - www.exmormon.org\"</p>\n', created = 1493018792, expire = 1493105192, headers = '', serialized = 0 WHERE cid = '2:1a8f0c83a5b28cbeedcb0b1ad247eaa8' in /home/exmormon/public_html/d6/drupal/includes/cache.inc on line 112.

by sam Feb 2012

The meeting I could not stand is Ward Council and PEC (even when I was a Bishop conducting them). To much *** gossip. It bothered me so much.

My next least favorite meeting was Sacrament Meeting when a High Council Speaker came-boring and sometimes over the top!

introvertedme
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Relief Society!!!! GAG! Prissy, shallow, gossipy, cliche-ish, fake, and unnecessary. I hated knowing we were just there so the men could do the Important Work while we were simply made busy so we felt important. Hated it.


myselfagain
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike

OMG yes!!! It felt so foolish and lame. All the young mothers holding babies and they all seemed to have this little simpering smile. "Look at me! Perfect LDS Womanhood!" It just bored me to tears.


forbiddencokedrinker
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Priesthood. Total sausagefest.


pamarnold
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
RS [relief society] used to be great, but they turned it into a watered down Sunday School lesson that was so boring and everyone's eyes would glaze over.


exmollymo
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Sunday School - so stupid! Even as a TBM I skipped it a lot.

jaredsotherbrother
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Stake conference. From the interminable drive to get there to the uber boring content of the talks. No hanging out with friends before or after the meeting, and no sliver of sacrament bread to assuage my hunger. The only ray of light was on the way home, a massive billboard for Harrah's that was covered with scantily clad showgirls.


orphan
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
I hated priesthood meetings the most because that is where the fiction turned to fantasy or vise versa.

justbreathe
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Priesthood meeting. I was in the Elders Quorum Presidency and had fun while in there, but when I was released, my liberal views didn't catch well when they put me as a teacher. I tried to push "my agenda". By the way, I am still a member, but trying to figure out how/when to leave completely (family reasons).


Sorcha
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Actually, when I was teaching the Beehives, the meeting that caused me to question my "faith" was the lesson I was supposed to teach these 12- and 13-year-olds that NOTHING should interfere with their marrying a worthy priesthood holder. As an adult convert--and independent woman, mind you--I was ... stunned. THAT was a turning point for me.

Did I teach the lesson? ... Sadly, yes. I was a brainwashed TBM at the time. But shortly thereafter I asked to be released (and refused to return to church until I was released). My cog dis shelf was about to collapse.


liberalbutteffer
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Can I count girls camp is a meeting? It was when I fooled into thinking that the peace I felt being surrounded by nature was really the spirit and when I was stupid enough to believe that it was healthy for these sobbing girls to go up on the stage and give their testimonies about how the church helped them get over their depression, loss of family, loss of pets, etc.


Joe Laban
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Sunday School is so boring so I leave to have a cup of coffee and listen to MormonStories.org podcasts. Now that is Sunday School.
nowI'mfound
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Couldn't stand RS. Gag!
nowI'mfound
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Dry counsel sunday. Snoozers! About the time they'd say, "We bring you the greetings and love of our Stake President," my brain had already checked out.

And we NEVER went to stake conference EVER. What's the point of it? The high counsel speaker shares the stake's themes each month, and anything church-wide is shared during general conference. What's the point of stake conference. Huge, over-crowded waste of time.


mav
The 'interview' meeting with the bish at 12 years of age asking inappropriate
questions. Parents who did not know about it or did and did not care. I felt it was a setup and I had no control over any of it. Never felt safe in that 'church' from then on.


48erhater
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
sacrament meeting. I stopped going to church at 15 years old. The other two meetings me and the other guys would mess around. Which made the other two meeting more bearable.


Makurosu
I hated that monthly stake leadership meeting.
Most boring meeting in the Universe. I don't think I ever made it through one.
amos2
Stake "stewardship" meeting
When I was elders quorum president.
Once a month, at 6am on a sunday, we met with the stake presidency in the high council room.
We reported home teaching, including forwarding the names of people no longer residing in our ward who were encumbering our roster, because they count as not contacted until then...it was like bailing out a leaky boat. The names arrived faster then we could bail them out.
I tried to be a quality home teacher. I mowed an old lady's lawn every week. I drove a terminally ill man to appointments and cleaned his house. It was always a weekly thing for me and often daily, not monthly. I could easily spend 8 hours a week on just a few people.
...but in stake "stewardship", it was purely the numbers and corporate interest.
Mia
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Since I refused to go to them for the last 20 years, I would have to say relief society. Nobody in that room is getting any relief from anything! It was an insult to humanity in my opinion.

confused
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
I have never enjoyed Relief Society and I don't have any good reasons to not be in there anymore, like being in Primary or taking care of a baby. So now I skip it & they always check up on me asking why they didn't see me in there. Tomorrow I am going to church but I know that I won't be able to make myself sit through RS. Hopefully it will be one of the last Sundays.


forbiddencokedrinker
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
And now, the GA's don't even leave Utah to come visit all the various Stakes, they instead just phone it in like a second General Conference.

myselfagain
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
I can really relate to the post about teaching the YW. I very seldom used the text and would try to make it as honest as I could for the girls. The text is so outdated and stupid that at times the girls would ask me "Sister X? What are they talking about?" That is why I couldn't just parrot the words. They deserved better.


Makurosu
I have to tell the story about the last time my ex-wife went to "homemaking" meeting.
My ex has multiple degrees in business management and finance, and she really was never a homemaking kind of girl. I knew that going in with her, and I always supported her career goals. She came home from a Relief Society homemaking meeting once, walked in and slammed all the doors. When I asked what was wrong, she said that they had made pioneer ladies out of Mrs. Butterworth bottles, and they treated her like she was the stupidest person in the world because she just isn't a craft person. She was being a good sport and doing this stupid thing, because she felt she wanted to fit in to a church that she didn't really believe in. I heard from someone in the ward that she smashed hers in the parking lot after the meeting.

She never went to another homemaking meeting, and I think that experience was the beginning of the end for her and the Mormon church.


laluna
Re: I have to tell the story about the last time my ex-wife went to "homemaking" meeting.
This has me rolling on the floor laughing my butt off!! Pioneer ladies out of Mrs. Butterworth??? Are you making this up or was that really the craft?
L.A.EX
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Zone Conferences in the mission! Nothing worse than overbearing 19-21 year olds all trying to win the Mr. Spirituality award to impress the Mission President and gain the coveted AP position.
Tanqueray & Tonic
Re: I have to tell the story about the last time my ex-wife went to "homemaking" meeting.
Hilarious.
myselfagain
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
The Mrs. Butterworth story was priceless and I can SO see it happening! I am not crafty either and have often been looked at with a mix of scorn and pity because making sugar cube temples and pipe cleaner crafts was not my forte. *sigh*
Makurosu
I'm completely serious.
Yeah, absolutely ridiculous. And here's me with a woman who wants to punch someone in the face, and I can barely contain my laughter at the notion of grown women making pioneer ladies out of Mrs. Butterworth bottles. She's BLACK, you know. We were talking about that one for a long, long time.
suckafoo
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Pregnant ladies crying with emotion every Sunday ...

suckafoo
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
They made clay nativity scenes in December. Baby Jesus was shaped like a little sausage. I felt bad for throwing it away because someone worked a long time making all the little parts.


freeman
+1
Definately Penishood for me too.
freeman
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
I used to skip Priesthood, go to the pub, play a couple of games of pool and drink a smooth pint.
cl2
Thanks for the laugh!
My ex just said, "Where did they get all the Mrs. Butterworth bottles? Did they tell the women to start collecting them earlier?"
cl2
ALLLLLLLL meetings. Stake conference was one of the worst.

willyjames
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Gen Conf Talks - can't stand the 'conference-ease' voices, the sisters were the worse


WinksWinks
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
Whichever meeting got me the closest scrutiny.

Sac meeting, no problem, sit just far enough away from daddy's arm's reach and doodle.
Primary/YW, no problem, sit on the end of the row away from the teacher and doodle.
The individual classes? Not good. There were already few enough kids around that we could sit arrayed in front of the teacher, as few as 3 or 4 kids when they combined two year classes. Hard to doodle with the teacher watching, although sometimes I tried to say I was taking notes.
Personal interviews? The worst! I still can't do interviews well at all! Gah!

And then I left before 18, so I've never suffered RS. :D


rodolfo
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
No question, PEC and ward council.
Marcionite
Re: So which meeting bothered you the most or did you dislike
I got to where I hated them all, but I guess the ones I hated the most were PEC, Ward Council, gossip meetings.

When not in leadership I truly hated priesthood. What a stupid meeting. I never felt like I fit in with the mentality. I wasn't one of the bigoted good old boys.

DW could never stomach relief society. In our 30 years of marriage she only attended a few times.


Makurosu
I asked that too.
She said they were told beforehand to bring them in. I have visions of someone stopping to pick one up on the way to the meeting and emptying it out on a street corner. I wonder what they would have done if someone had accidentally brought in an Aunt Jemima bottle.

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